Ep. 26 - Realizing the Family You Always Thought You Had Doesn’t Exist

What if the family you thought you had never really existed the way you believed it did...? No One Ever Prepares You to Realize That the Family You Always Thought You Had Does Not Exist.In this raw and deeply personal episode, I open up about what it means to grow up as the black sheep—the old soul, the one who sees everything, feels everything, and somehow never quite fits into the family you were born into. We dive into the unspoken roles we play, especially as the firstborn, and the invisible weight of being the cycle breaker—the one who recognizes the patterns, the dysfunction, the emotional gaps… and chooses to face them instead of repeating the same broken cycle. Welcome back to Influenced By Kim, hosted by⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Hofit Kim Cohen Meyers⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. In this episode, we go into the grief that no one prepares you for—the kind that comes not from loss, but from awakening. From realizing the apology you’ve been waiting for may never come, to witnessing the people you love continue to self-sabotage, to slowly detaching from the version of your parents you held onto for years. I share what it’s like to grow up between a narcissistic, unpredictable father and an emotionally unavailable, people-pleasing mother—and the moment everything hit a breaking point. We talk about what happens when you stop being your parents’ parent, how to release anger, betrayal, and abandonment from your body, and how to step into a new reality where you redefine family, reclaim your power, and finally choose yourself.I'll be speaking about: Sharing some of my experiences of having a complicated miscarriage & and how delusional I was about the healing processMost of my life & growing up feeling lonely because of my role on this planet from a starseed, indigo child, old soul, consciousness perspective (black sheep)Why every family has a black sheep Shadow work and generational trauma cycle breaker queen Merging to a new family — leaving your old family behind and marrying into a new family & starting your own family (what no one tells you or talks about) The merging of two souls becoming one after marriage (exchange vows) Queen Charlotte on Netflix My family dynamic — the role you play as an older child & first born No one ever prepares you to realize  that the family you always thought you had does not exist (a harsh pill to swallow)Also, no one ever prepares you for griefing and losing the longest relationship you’ve ever had in your life (which are the relationships with your parents)The feelings that come with waiting for the apology and the conversation that’s never coming.The heartache that comes with watching the people you love self, sabotage the fuck out of themselves.How to release anger, sadness, and betrayal from the body so that it doesn’t manifest into diseases.Not speaking to parents anymore. How boomers generation parents were taught to parent vs. what millennial kids actually needed (lack of emotional intelligence) & their love language.What it’s like to grow up with a narcissist bipolar father and an emotionally unavailable & people-pleasing mother. Being attached to the younger version or the vision you had believed and hoped your mom, dad and siblings would be of who no longer are that and shifting into a new reality and redefining their identity that you have attached to them and have not upgraded for many years. Releasing abandonment, betrayal, trauma out of the body. All my courses, masterclasses & programs:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://influencedbykim.com/social-media-links⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Social Media:INSTAGRAM:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@hofitkimcohen⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TIKTOK:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@hofitkimcohen⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YOUTUBE:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/vanillaskydreaming⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FACEBOOK:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.facebook.com/vanillaskydreaming/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠