Ep #274: The Cost of Being Defensive

#274: Defensiveness is a protective mechanism embedded in our evolutionary history that we can be grateful for, but it can also be painful to you and those you’re in relationship with. What can you do to step out of this deeply ingrained habit?Tune in this week to learn where defensiveness stems from and how to cultivate patience and compassion towards yourself and others when it shows up. I’m showing you the connection between defensiveness and self-esteem, why thought work often isn’t enough to stop this habit, and my favorite remedies for reducing the impulsivity of your defensive responses.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/274 Mentioned in this episode:Join Nervous System Signals and Safety!You understand your anxiety. You can name your triggers, trace them back, explain the whole thing. And your body still does what it does - the freeze, the brace, the exhaustion that has nothing to do with how much you slept. Working at the level where the pattern actually lives - your nervous system, your physiology - is what changes it. Signals & Safety is 12 weeks of somatic education and practice built from 20+ years of clinical training. You come out knowing why your body responds the way it does, and with the tools to meet yourself differently in the moments that used to undo you. Check it out here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/signalsandsafetyNervous System Signals and Safety