(Ep. 28) Divorce and the Compassion Method Process

What if the hardest part of divorce isn't the paperwork or the custody — it's the grief no one ever gave you permission to feel?In this episode of Triggered & True, Laura Duncan and co-host Brian Freise turn toward a subject that rarely gets the care it deserves: divorce. We have marriage counseling, but almost no one has "divorce counseling," so people pour their energy into the logistics — finances, custody, co-parenting — while the pain in their heart goes untended, sometimes for years or even decades. This episode is for anyone in the middle of it, or still carrying it long after.Laura speaks about divorce with striking compassion and zero judgment. She's clear that for some people divorce truly is the right choice — and just as clear that most divorce decisions are made from a triggered, "not sober" place rather than the true self. She and Brian explore why divorce is a genuine grief process, often as heavy as a death, and why shame quietly withholds the comfort that grief requires: if you feel you have no right to be sad, you can't heal. They look honestly at how unhealed pain gets medicated — rushing into remarriage, addictions, or "shameless" living — and reframe this season as a real, if counterintuitive, opportunity to finally tend the wounds underneath. As Laura says to anyone who's walked this road: I'm proud of you.In this episode: 🔹 Why "divorce counseling" barely exists — and how the inner world gets neglected for the logistics 🔹 Why most divorce decisions come from the triggered self, not the true self 🔹 Divorce as grief: why it can hurt like a death, and why shame blocks the comfort grief needs 🔹 How unhealed pain gets medicated — fast remarriage, addiction, "shameless" living — and why 🔹 The counterintuitive opportunity: tending the pain of divorce, all the way back to its childhood rootsA gentle note: this episode discusses divorce, affairs, and abuse with compassion and without judgment. Laura is explicit that for some, divorce is the right and safest choice — your story and your safety come first.📩 Get your free Weekly Dose of Compassion — two short notes in your inbox every week. One to speak over yourself. One from Laura: https://www.lauraduncan.com/pl/2148814868🔗 Learn more: https://triggeredandtrue.comhttps://lauraduncan.com