EP 289: The AMAZING Benefits of Self Compassion (Hint: They Might Not Be What You Think)

While the benefits of developing the traits of compassion are quite clear, it is very helpful to first develop the trait of SELF COMPASSION. Self judgment and self criticism are instinctive for the human mind and this is especially true for parents! We hold ourselves to a higher standard than we ever hold anyone else. While working with people, I often hear that this self criticism and holding ourselves to this far higher standard is ‘what gives me my drive’. And I answer this in two ways: first, I demonstrate the latest research which unequivocally refutes this notion and shows the exact opposite to be true. Then I ask people to try a simple exercise for a few minutes every day. Two weeks later, nearly without exception, these folks who were so sure of the benefits of self criticism tell me how much better they feel and how much MORE motivated and efficient they are. And the parents among these folks tell me how much more connected they feel with their kids and how much more cooperation they get from their children as well. Would you like to learn how to practice self compassion?