Ep.30: Divorcuary: Should I Stay or Should I Go? With Dr. Marni Feuerman

This week, we’re joined by the incredible Dr. Marnie Feuerman, a renowned couples therapist and author of Ghosted and Breadcrumbed. Together, we tackle the heart-wrenching question so many face: Should I stay in this relationship or should I leave? Dr. Marnie shares her wisdom on navigating divorce ambivalence, emotional disconnection, and the power of discernment counseling to find clarity and confidence. Are you in a “gray divorce” phase or just questioning your connection? The insights Dr. Marni Feuerman shares can help you move forward with intention.We talk about the importance of emotional availability, how systemic understanding can transform relational dynamics, and why some relationships struggle during midlife transitions. Dr. Marnie also unpacks the nuances of attachment styles and how they shape the way couples connect or disconnect. Don’t miss this candid and compassionate conversation that may just help you find the clarity you’ve been searching for. Episode Highlights:[00:02] - Introducing Dr. Marnie Feuerman and her expertise in relationship counseling.[01:56] - Dr. Marnie shares her perspective on why divorce ambivalence is so common and the complexities behind such a monumental decision.[05:23] - Discussing "gray divorce" and how empty nest syndrome can magnify marital issues.[08:05] - The impact of menopause and hormonal changes on intimacy and connection in relationships.[11:39] - Emotional unavailability explained: What it looks like, how it affects relationships, and the role of attachment styles.[15:55] - Colette reflects on her own experience with emotional disconnection in a marriage.[20:23] - The "lottery test" question: A surprising way to explore how someone feels about staying in their marriage.[26:34] - The difference between being “in love” versus experiencing a deeper, companionate love.[30:48] - Dr. Marnie explains discernment counseling: What it is and how it helps couples clarify their next steps.[36:30] - Why couples therapy requires at least one “cheerleader” for the relationship to succeed.[41:22] - Final takeaways: Why seeking professional guidance with a systemic approach is essential when facing relationship crossroads. Resources:Dr. Marni Feuerman’s Website: https://www.drmarnionline.com/ Dr. Marni Feuerman’s Psychotherapy: https://thetalkingsolution.com/ Dr. Marni Feuerman’s Book: Ghosted and Breadcrumbed: Stop Falling for Unavailable Men and Get Smart about Healthy RelationshipsFor more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at [email protected] we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season.  Come join us—we’d love to have you!👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-bookRecognized by FeedSpot:Top 60 Couples Therapy Podcasts | Top 100 U.S. Mental Health Podcasts | Top 100 Relaxation Podcasts