EP 304: Avoidantly Attached to Madly Deeply in Love with Special Guest Kirsten Durand

"Discover Kirsten's powerful journey of finding love, with the help of Dr. Morgan and a willingness to become securely attached!"    "I had to find myself and figure out what that was before I could even be ready for a relationship like this. So I think it's just crazy how the timing happened with it all, because I literally met him two months after the meeting with you." - Kirsten Durand   Kirsten Durand is a successful business owner, streamer, and content creator who gained viral fame with her fiance for their engagement ring mishap. She is currently planning her wedding for 2024 and is passionate about helping others find love and healing through understanding attachment theory.   Kirsten Durand was single for four years, so she had developed a pattern of quickly cutting off relationships. When she met her now fiance, she was determined to do things differently. She had met with Dr. Morgan just two months before meeting her now fiance, and this helped her show up differently in her dating life. She allowed her walls to be broken down and, she went against her avoidant attachment tendencies, which led to the start of a great relationship. Kirsten and her fiance are now happily engaged! Kirsten credits her engagement to the help of Dr. Morgan.    In this episode, you will learn the following: How to Overcome Avoidant Attachment Dating Strategies What It Takes to Find the Right Person (Even if You Have an Avoidant Attachment Style)  The Viral Story Behind the Proposal Gone Wrong    Ready to begin your own journey to love?! I've got you covered:    Apply to the Empowered.Secure.Loved Program Here:  https://www.drmorgancoaching.com/esl-breakthrough   Connect with me:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmorgancoaching Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drmorgancoaching YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.morgantv5909 Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drmorgancoach   Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lets-get-vulnerable-relationship-and-dating-advice/id1496034764    Connect with Kirsten here:  TikTok: @tandkay01  Instagram: @kay_smilesxo     Episode Sneak Peak:  [00:00:00] Kirsten is a successful business owner, streamer, and content creator. She is currently planning her wedding for 2024. She and her fiance lost the engagement ring at the beach during the engagement shoot. Their viral video has over 39.5 million views on TikTok!  [00:01:23] Before meeting her partner, Kirsten was single for four years. She says she put a lot of pressure on first connections. She was avoiding being vulnerable.  [00:10:13] Kirsten: "In anything in life, it's effort. Why do you think dating shouldn't be effort? Anything that is worthwhile takes time to build. You must build a foundation." [00:11:31] Kirsten: The old way of dating is having high expectations and going into the date with the checklist...Dr. Morgan points out this is a way to avoid being vulnerable and to avoid connection.  [00:19:47] Dr. Morgan: "The most attractive version of ourselves is when we are authentically ourselves."  [00:24:04] Do you feel like this was the most vulnerable, real open and honest that you've been?  Kirsten: Yes. I literally met him two months after the meeting with you. I'm so glad that we've connected again. [00:25:11] "We can allow ourselves to be gushy and romantic, " Dr. Morgan says. "If we don't feel emotionally safe, we can't even access that part of ourselves " When did you know you could see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person? [00:27:08] A video of a proposal that went viral on TikTok wasn't the actual proposal. Instead, it was just the engagement shoot for save the date photos. The photographer eventually found the ring. The couple spent two and a half hours looking for it. [00:33:45] And he's just like, you know, he didn't blame me. He was like, okay, well, it's just another Tuesday with you. Let's find it and move on. And I feel like a lot of guys would be like, why did you jump in it? [00:34:07] Dr. Morgan: Having that partner that can kind of be that securely attached base really helps move us more towards a securely attached place. Sometimes it's nice to have a partner to reach out to, and they can help you in ways that they can give you grace. Both of those things are beautiful parts of being with the right partner.