EP 31: Mental Load Is Not a Love Language — Redefining Support in ADHD Households

Overfunctioning isn’t love — it’s a trauma response.In this powerful episode, I break down how ADHD and high-achieving brains are conditioned to earn love through performance — and why that often leads to burnout, resentment, and broken communication in our most intimate relationships.We’ll explore:• The “nagging wife” dynamic through a trauma-informed lens• Why emotional labor and logistics must be separated• How to build household systems that actually support you• What it looks like to lead at home the way you lead at workWhether you’re a parent, partner, or professional — this one’s for you.📩 DM “WIFE” on Instagram to learn more about the Not Your Wife support package.https://www.instagram.com/avy.hd/#ADHDLife #MentalLoad #RelationshipReset #HighAchieverBurnout #NotYourWife #EmotionalLabor