Ep. 318: Dating in Midlife: Where have all the good men (& women) gone?

Why is dating so hard in midlife? Are we all sending mixed signals? Abe Morgentaler, MD & Marianne Brandon, PhD are the hosts of the Sex Doctors Podcast, where they deep dive into the science & psychology of sexual health & relationships.  Dr. Morgentaler is a Harvard trained MD who opened the first comprehensive men’s health center in the US, is the leading authority in testosterone therapy, author of four books & currently the Blavatnik Faculty Fellow in Health & Longevity at Harvard Medical School.  Dr. Brandon is a clinical psychologist, author & futurist whose professional writing includes aging & sex, the challenges of monogamy & female low libido. In this episode, you’ll hear both personal & professional perspectives about the dating pool & approaches including app culture, dick pics, gender equality, hormones, “the ick” & desire-killing control. If you like this episode, you’ll also like episode 180: IS YOUR ATTACHMENT STYLE RUINING YOUR RELATIONSHIP? Guests:Theirshttps://www.facebook.com/thesexdoctorshttps://www.youtube.com/@thesexdoctorspodhttps://www.instagram.com/thesexdoctors/Hershttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-future-intimacyhttps://a.co/d/8smce3Chttps://www.linkedin.com/in/mariannebrandon-59224513/https://x.com/DrBrandonHishttps://www.linkedin.com/in/abraham-morgentaler-md-81628b6/https://x.com/DrMorgentalerhttps://t4leducation.com/https://a.co/d/hZHpFn0 Host:  https://www.meredithforreal.com/  https://www.instagram.com/meredithforreal/ [email protected]://www.youtube.com/meredithforreal  https://www.facebook.com/meredithforrealthecuriousintrovert  Sponsors: https://www.jordanharbinger.com/starterpacks/ https://www.historicpensacola.org/about-us/  00:00 — Midlife dating déjà vu01:00 — Where have the good ones gone?02:03 — Top complaints while dating03:10 — Picky or self-aware?04:02 — Tiny towns vs. big cities05:00 — Strangers, apps, and mistrust05:58 — Why men send dick pics07:00 — Filtering for “fast yes”08:05 — Who’s actually relationship-minded?08:45 — Is app culture the problem?09:20 — Entertainment vs. reciprocity09:58 — Should serious daters ditch apps?10:40 — The slot-machine effect11:35 — Standards vs. pickiness12:15 — Are we avoiding compromise?13:20 — The myth of perfection14:05 — How good men spend time15:00 — Apps aren’t on your side16:12 — Ancient brains, modern tools17:00 — Digital dating = amplified disappointment18:00 — Get out of the house19:00 — Pick the rRequest to join my private Facebook Group, MFR Curious Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1BAt3bpwJC/Follow me in all the places:https://www.meredithforreal.com/  https://www.instagram.com/the_curiousintrovert/ [email protected]://www.youtube.com/meredithforreal https://www.facebook.com/curiousintrovert