(Ep. 36) Applying The Compassion Method (TCM) to children and parenting

What if the most powerful thing you could do for your struggling child isn't to fix them — but to heal something in yourself?In this episode of Triggered & True, Laura Duncan and co-host Brian Freise take on parenting — and turn it on its head. A listener asked how to walk a triggered child through the Compassion Method: do you do the remote control exercise with them, look for gift givers, explain what's happening? Laura's answer redirects the whole thing: parenting is far more about the parent than the child, because how we care for our kids is mostly a byproduct of how well we're caring for ourselves.Laura and Brian unpack why our children trigger us so intensely (codependence — "I'm not okay if my kids aren't okay"), why we parent from our own early childhood coding even when we're determined to do the opposite, and the difference between a defensive and an offensive approach to raising kids. Then Laura gets remarkably vulnerable, sharing the hardest chapter of her own parenting: a daughter she struggled to attach to, how she unknowingly reinforced "what you do matters more than who you are," and how the Compassion Method eventually let her simply be with her child — even while being screamed at — instead of pushing her away. It's honest about real mistakes and deeply hopeful: this is empowering precisely because it's the one thing you can control.In this episode: 🔹 Why parenting is more about the parent than the child — and why that's good news 🔹 Codependence with kids: "I'm not okay if my children aren't okay," and the frantic cycle it creates 🔹 Why you parent from your own childhood coding — even when you're trying to do the opposite 🔹 Laura's honest story: struggling to attach to a child and learning to be with her in her reactions 🔹 Why "don't be a better parent — try to be more connected to yourself" changes everything📩 Get your free Weekly Dose of Compassion — two short notes in your inbox every week. One to speak over yourself. One from Laura: https://www.lauraduncan.com/pl/2148814868🔗 Learn more: https://triggeredandtrue.comhttps://lauraduncan.com