Ep. 386: Maturity Plays A Big Role In This…

HAVE A MONEY QUESTION? GET EXPERT ANSWERS.EMAIL US: [email protected] this episode of the Pete the Planner Show, Peter and Damian tackle some serious relationship problems.  REMINDER: Try HEY MONEY, your new secret weapon for advice in your personal finances. No time to listen? BUMMER. Here’s some of what happened: Show Notes: Mailbag Question 1: “I’m feeling I’ve been abused by my husband. He thinks a stay-at-home mom is a servant and I don’t need an allowance, and is constantly saying rude things to me about our financial problems.” Pete: This hurts. So little is said, with words, but it says so much. The idea of an adult with an allowance still rubs me the wrong way. Damian: Financial abuse often comes along with emotional of physical abuse and manipulation. These stories aren’t to be brushed under the rug. Peoples’ value and worth is not their income. She might need to find an advocate to help create an opening to work through this.   Mailbag Question 2: “I believe you have a better chance of success when you know how to define success, which is to set a goal. How do you recommend people set goals when they’re doing it with someone else?“ Damian: Communication has to happen. Maybe even over multiple meetings. Start talking about where you’re at and what you want to accomplish. Give yourself a specific number to reach and within a specific time limit. Pete: I’ll add “what it is you’re trying to accomplish.” It’s not enough to say, “I’d like less debt this year.” You need something like, “I’d like $350 less debt on my Best Buy card by December 6th of this year.” You’ve got to be able to measure it. Also, trust and vulnerability have to be there. We built Hey Money so someone can guide you through this process to set financial goals together. (Hint: Use the offer code “RADIO”)   There’s a full, entertaining conversation in here! Get the full answers to this more — click PLAY below for the full show.