Ep 39: How to Repair After Conflict ("I'm Sorry You Feel That Way" Doesn't Cut It)

You snapped at your kid, felt bad, and then “apologized” with, “I’m sorry, but you should have listened the first time.” Or your partner says, “I’m sorry you feel that way” mid-argument, and it makes things even worse….In this episode, couples & sex therapist Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy and pelvic floor physical therapist Dr. Alexandra DiGrado talk through why so many apologies miss the mark and what genuine repair looks like in parenting, partnerships, and everyday life. Dr. Rebecca also shares the story of a public blowup with a school crossing guard that still makes her cringe and what she did afterward to make it right.Not all apologies are created equal. Tune in to learn the difference between a "sorry" that just clears your own conscience (...we’re all guilty of it) and one that actually protects your relationships for the long term.You’ll learn:Why  a “but…” totally cancels out your apologyWhy over-apologizing (especially as women) can make your words lose their meaningWhy a “forced march” doesn’t teach kids empathy (and what does)How shame just keeps you stuck instead of helping you repairWhy modeling repair, not perfection, is what actually shows your kids how to handle their own conflictsWhy feeling guilty about losing your cool doesn't mean you're a bad parent. It means you care enough to try betterTune in if:Your partner says, 'I'm sorry you feel that way' mid-argument, and you want to hit the ceilingYou lost your temper recently and aren't sure whether to move on or address itYou’re stuck between “I shouldn’t have yelled” and “but that behavior wasn’t okay either” when it comes to your kids You didn’t grow up with parents who apologized, and you're trying to figure out how to do it differentlyHelpful resources:Parents in Love: A Guide to Great Sex After Kids by Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy — including more real-life rupture & repair storiesFind a pelvic floor PT near you: pelvicrehab.com or Pelvic Global DirectoryConnect with us:Dr. Rebecca Howard EudyWebsite: rebeccaeudy.comInstagram: @rebeccahowardeudyNewsletter: Parents in Love SubstackDr. Alexandra DiGradoWebsite: bostonpelvicpt.comInstagram: @bostonpelvicptNewsletter: Under the HoodUnder the Hood PodcastInstagram: @underthehooddocsWebsite: underthehoodpod.comYouTube: @underthehooddocs