EP. 398: Voted Off the Island: The Marriage Rule Every ADHD Couple Needs with Jackie Kelley

Tired of ADHD strategies that don’t work? Start with my this training: Stop Trying to “Fix” Your ADHD. You’re Not Broken: https://programs.tracyotsuka.com/sign-up_____Have you ever tried to fix your spouse? Push a little harder, remind a little more, explain it one more time, and eventually they will just get it?Jackie Kelley did that for years. Then she realized the thing she kept trying to change was often just a brain that worked differently from hers.Jackie is a neurodivergent content creator, illustrator, children’s book author, wife, mother, and founder of JK Illustrates. Diagnosed with ADHD at 30, after motherhood knocked down what she calls the “perfect house of cards” she had built around herself, she began sharing what she was learning about ADHD, marriage, and family life. Her viral “Marriage Rules” videos took off in 2024, and her book, So You Married a Human, comes out October 6.She and her husband married two weeks after she graduated, having never spent more than 72 consecutive hours together. Two very different neurodivergent brains, each convinced the other person’s way was the problem, eventually built a set of rules to communicate better in the middle of conflict.In this episode, Jackie and Tracy get into “Voted Off the Island,” “No Wrong Answer,” “Do It Yourself,” and “Love This Idea for Five Minutes.” They also talk about sensory overload, defensiveness, the “little man” screaming in everyone’s head, why the goal of a fight cannot be winning, and why laughter matters so much in an ADHD marriage.If you have ever quietly resented your partner for not doing something the way your brain needs it done, this one is for you.Resources: Website: https://www.stayathomejackie.com Website: https://www.jkillustrates.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Stayathomejackie Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stayathomejackie Send a Message: Your Name | Email | Message Explore more from me:🧘 SHIFT: https://tracyotsuka.com/shift📚 Free resources: https://tracyotsuka.com/learn📖 Get the book, ADHD for Smart Ass Women: https://tracyotsuka.com/adhd-book🧠 Join Your ADHD Brain is A-OK Academy: https://tracyotsuka.com/aok🌐 Visit my website: https://tracyotsuka.com/ADHD isn’t a productivity problem. It’s an identity problem.That’s why most strategies don’t stick. They were not designed for how your brain actually works. If you’re ready to stop fighting your brain and start building a life that fits, start here: https://programs.tracyotsuka.com/sign-upConnect with me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tracyotsukaFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/heytracyotsukaLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracyotsuka/Are You Ready to Discover Your Brilliance? Order Now: https://tracyotsuka.com/adhd-bookVisit our website: https://tracyotsuka.com