Ep 416: Boundaries Start At Your Skin with Nischa Heron Phair

Are you interested in improving your relationship?  Have you been worried about your past trauma? In this episode, I talk with Nischa Heron Phair. She is a somatics researcher, pleasure activist and the author of Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes; a rousing call to celebrate our authentic sexuality and invite more integrity into our bedrooms and pleasure into our lives. A trauma-informed embodiment coach for 14 years, Nischa first began studying the role of fawning and intimacy in 2016 to better understand her own experiences and soon after started sharing her findings and recovery practices with her clients to great acclaim. We discuss the struggles of freezing and fawning. She shares the practice to help set better boundaries in relationships and where we may need boundaries in our lives. This is a deep topic on abuse, trauma, and how to please yourself instead of everyone else. Questions I asked: How's the weather where you are? Can you tell us about yourself and your book? Can you tell us what fawning is? How can we focus on pleasing ourselves? How can we get people to stop freezing in situations? How can we build firmer boundaries with people? Why do people need to learn to say no? Why is it important to switch from people-pleasing to pleasing ourselves? What would you like to leave with people today? Where can people find you and get your book? Topics Discussed: Freezing & Fawning. Trauma response. Domestic violence. People Pleasing Relationships. Abuse. Quotes from the show: "The book emerges after I got out of my abusive marriage." @nischaphair @SisterhoodSweat "I was just doing whatever I needed to, in order to satisfy him." @nischaphair @SisterhoodSweat "I didn't know how to say NO to him." @nischaphair @SisterhoodSweat How you can stay in touch with Nischa: Website Facebook Instagram Get her book   How you can stay in touch with Linda: Website Facebook Twitter Instagram Pinterest YouTube SoundCloud   "Proud Sponsors of the Sisterhood of S.W.E.A.T"   Essential Formulas   My daily energy stems from mushrooms... mushroom coffee that is! Have you checked out Four Sigmatic yet? If you want a coffee that contains superfoods and adaptogens like rhodiola, eleuthero, and schisandra to help you live a healthier, more enhanced life, then you need Four Sigmatic mushroom coffee in your daily routine! Check out their products here and be sure to let me know what you think of it!