Ep. 44: Avoidant Attachment–When Love Feels Engulfing

Where anxious attachment fears abandonment, avoidant attachment fears engulfment. You don’t lean in, you pull back. You create space. You disappear. This is the ‘flight’ response of attachment. You aren't fleeing because you don't care, you're fleeing because closeness once meant losing yourself. When you’re in avoidant attachment, the walls you’ve built around yourself become armor. The armor protects you from disappointment and intrusion, but it also prevents closeness and intimacy. This episode, I’m delving into the causes behind anxious attachment wounds, the ways anxious attachment shows up as intellectualizing rather than feeling, how to stay in your body in order to access the intelligence of your nervous system and feelings, and how to start trusting that connection doesn’t have to mean losing yourself.This work isn’t about letting go of your independence, it’s about learning that connection doesn't have to cost you yourself. When we become rooted in self-trust, we can create closeness and connection with others while protecting ourselves and remaining in self-connection, and that’s exactly what I hope to encourage with this series. ResourcesWebsite: robinbreckenridge.comInstagram: @coachwithrobinTikTok: @robinbreckenridgeYouTube: @growwithrobinbreckenridge