EP 48: Sabrina Bendory - Should You Get Back with an Ex?

In this raw, relatable, and deeply empowering conversation, Lauren Zoeller sits down with leading relationship coach and author Sabrina Bendory to unpack one of the most common (and confusing) questions in modern dating: Should I go back to my ex?Sabrina shares her personal story of marrying her high school ex—after a decade-long journey of emotional chaos, deep healing, and radical self-responsibility. Together, she and Lauren dive into what it really takes to create healthy love after heartbreak, why “just love” isn’t enough, and how somatic integration, identity shifts, and nervous system work are the missing pieces for so many women stuck in love loops.They explore how patterns like anxious attachment, self-abandonment, and unworthiness play out in relationships—and why the real transformation happens when you stop performing growth and start living it.Whether you’re questioning a past relationship, struggling with detachment, or wondering why healthy love still feels hard, this episode will meet you right where you are—and show you how to rise from the inside out.Key Points From This Episode:Sabrina’s full-circle love story (and what had to change before it could work)The role of nervous system regulation in dating and relationship repairHow your identity and self-worth shape who you attract (and keep)Why getting back with an ex only works if the work has been done on both sidesThe power of discomfort as a portal to growth in loveWhy insight isn’t enough—and implementation is everythingHow to challenge deep-rooted stories like “I’m broken” or “Everyone leaves”What it actually looks like to choose yourself first and show up for loveQuotes:“You can want something so badly and still sabotage it—because your nervous system isn’t ready to hold it.” — Sabrina Bendory [00:15:11] “Love doesn’t conquer all. Compatibility, commitment, and healing do.” — Sabrina Bendory [00:36:22] “Your reality is a reflection of what you think you’re worthy of. Change the belief, and the world around you changes too.” — Lauren Zoeller [00:49:08]Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:Sabrina Bendory Sabrina Bendory on Instagram You Will Be Ok Podcast You’re Overthinking It by Sabrina Bendory Tennessee Fertility InstituteLauren Zoeller Lauren Zoeller on LinkedIn Lauren Zoeller on InstagramLauren Zoeller on XLauren Zoeller on TikTok Lauren Zoeller on FacebookThe Aligned Love Collective The Aligned Love Podcast