Ep 48 - Why you can't seem to change no matter how hard you try

You're following the plan. You're doing the work. You're showing up consistently. And somewhere in the back of your mind, there's still a nagging question — why hasn't anything actually changed? In this episode, Yvonne shares something from her own experience learning to trade shares — a world where the rules are clear, the strategy is defined, and there is nowhere to hide. She followed the plan, took consistent action, and still found herself hesitating after a loss and overriding the strategy after a win. Same pattern. Different circumstances. What she discovered — and what this episode unpacks — is that the problem was never the plan. It was the level at which she was trying to change things. Most of what people try works at the level of behaviour. And it helps, for a while. But if the belief and identity underneath haven't shifted, the behaviour keeps defaulting back. You end up white-knuckling your way through the same patterns, wondering why effort alone isn't enough. This episode is about why. And what to do instead. Topics discussed ·        ·       Why doing more of the same thing keeps producing the same result ·       Yvonne's experience learning to trade — and what it revealed about belief and identity ·       The three levels at which we operate: behaviour, belief, and identity ·       Why most tools and strategies only work at the surface level ·       What it actually means when you override your own plan ·       How the brain defaults to what feels familiar — especially under pressure ·       Why real change feels different from trying harder ·       The question worth asking when effort alone isn't working Links and Resources Work with Rebekah If you've been doing the work — therapy, coaching, all of it — and still not getting the results you want, it might be time for a conversation. The work Rebekah does with clients goes to the deeper levels: the belief underneath the behaviour, and the identity that's been running the show. Book a Connection Call: https://bit.ly/ConnectWithRebekah What's in Your Suitcase? (Free activity) A short activity to help you identify one belief that's been shaping your behaviour — so you can start working at the right level. moonbeammonday.com.au/resources/your-suitcase   Connect with Us https://moonbeammonday.com.au https://www.instagram.com/moonbeammonday/ https://www.facebook.com/moonbeammonday https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebekah-king00/ http://www.youtube.com/@moonbeammondaytrainingcoac4696   Check out these FREE resources https://www.moonbeammonday.com.au/resources   Join us every fortnight Tune in every fortnight as we delve into fascinating topics about the mind and the brain, because when you change your mind, you change your life.   Subscribe and leave a review If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe to the show so you never miss an episode and leave a review to help others find and enjoy our content.