Ep 49 | Maybe this is as good as it gets - the belief keeping you stuck

Have you ever caught yourself thinking maybe this is just as good as it gets, and then immediately justified it with something going on in the world? In this rich, go-deep conversation, Rebekah King sits down with Adelaide's leading NLP coach and trainer Toni Everard to explore why so many capable, intelligent people stay stuck in jobs, relationships, and lives they've quietly outgrown. Toni unpacks the hidden role of emotional neglect in childhood (even in "good" childhoods), why our nervous system fights change even when we consciously want it, and how the real barrier to having what we want is rarely external. If you've done the therapy, the coaching, the self-development work, and there's still something a little sticky you can't quite shift, this episode is for you.   About Toni Everard Toni Everard is one of Adelaide's most respected NLP coaches and trainers, with over a decade in her own business and 20 years of prior experience in accounting and finance. Known for getting quickly beneath the surface and helping clients make changes that stick — personally and professionally — Toni works with coaches, practitioners, leaders in blue-collar industries, business owners, and corporate teams. She has a particular gift for helping people identify the unresolved emotional patterns quietly running the show in their business and their life. Her debut book, The Turning Point, is out now (order online at tonieverard.com/the-turning-point) Key Takeaways "Maybe this is as good as it gets" is a belief, not a fact.  Emotional neglect doesn't always look like trauma.  We abandon ourselves to protect others.  Your identity will die to be right.  It's not about blaming your parents.  Change happens in layers.  Episode Chapters 00:00 — Introduction to Toni Everard and NLP Coaching 02:21 — The Belief of "This Is As Good As It Gets" 04:13 — Emotional Influences and Childhood Experiences 08:14 — Addressing Unresolved Childhood Issues 12:54 — The Impact of Parental Relationships 20:51 — The Importance of Emotional Safety 27:05 — Fear of Change in Successful Individuals 30:01 — Personal Growth and Abandoning Self for Others 35:21 — The Dread of Mondays: Recognising Your Value in Work 39:07 — External Structures and Self-Worth 42:08 — Integrating Inner Power and Authority 45:56 — The Turning Point: Shifting Perspectives 54:54 — Finding Joy and Resolving Tension 01:00:05 — Business as a Vehicle for Personal Growth   Resources Mentioned 📖 The Turning Point by Toni Everard — tonieverard.com/the-turning-point   Connect with Toni Website: tonieverard.com Instagram: @tonieverard LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/tonieverard   Here's 3 ways you can work with Rebekah King  1. 1:1 Coaching – Deep, personalised work to shift the beliefs, patterns and pressures that hold you back, so you can lead with clarity and confidence. https://www.moonbeammonday.com.au/one-on-one-coaching 2. Book Rebekah as a speaker – Keynotes and presentations that blend neuroscience, mindset, and real human connection. Designed for leaders, teams and events that want more than the usual "motivation talk." https://www.moonbeammonday.com.au/rebekah-king-speaker 3. Bring Rebekah into your organisation – Interactive workshops and coaching that change the way your people think, communicate and show up… without the awkward role-plays or eye-rolls. https://www.moonbeammonday.com.au/workshops-and-presentations Book a Connection Call to find out how any of these options can support you or your organisation.  https://bit.ly/connect-with-moonbeam Connect with Moonbeam Monday https://moonbeammonday.com.au https://www.instagram.com/moonbeammonday/ https://www.facebook.com/moonbeammonday https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebekah-king00/ http://www.youtube.com/@moonbeammondaytrainingcoac4696 Check out these FREE resources from Moonbeam Monday Training + Coaching https://www.moonbeammonday.com.au/resources Join us every fortnight Tune in every fortnight as we delve into fascinating topics about the mind and the brain, because when you change your mind, you change your life.  Subscribe and leave a review If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe to the show so you never miss an episode and leave a review to help others find and enjoy our content.