(Ep. 5) The 10 Gifts -Tangibly Meeting Unmet Needs

What if the emptiness you carry isn't a flaw but a list of gifts you were never given?In this episode of Triggered & True, emotional health consultant Laura Duncan and co-host Brian Freise introduce one of the most practical and moving pieces of the Compassion Method: the 10 Gifts. These are the core emotional needs every child receives from birth to age 12 — and the ones whose absence quietly shapes how we trigger for the rest of our lives.Laura explains why she calls them gifts instead of needs, why unmet needs (our "lack") drive as much of our pain as anything done to us, and why getting those needs met matters more than simply making the hurt go away. Then she and Brian walked through all ten, from "I see you" and "I hear you" to protection, provision, affection, and "you are enough." The most moving aspect is the underlying hope: even if parents couldn't provide these gifts, people can still receive them, often from unexpected sources like a coach, a coworker, or a friend.In this episode: 🔹 The 10 Gifts every child needs from ages 0–12 — and why Laura frames them as gifts, not needs 🔹 Pain vs. unmet need: why your "lack" drives your triggers as much as anything that was done to you 🔹 Why getting your needs met matters more than making the pain go away — and what medication is really for 🔹 The self-inventory you can actually do: honestly asking which gifts you did and didn't receive 🔹 The hope at the center: how the gifts your parents couldn't give can still be received from others📩 Get your free Weekly Dose of Compassion — two short notes in your inbox every week. One to speak over yourself. One from Laura: https://www.lauraduncan.com/pl/2148814868🔗 Learn more: https://triggeredandtrue.comhttps://lauraduncan.com