Ep 51: Erica Komisar: Raising Resilient Adolescents In The New Age of Anxiety

About Erica Komisar: She is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst and parent guidance expert who's been in private practice in New York City for over 30 years. She is a graduate of Georgetown and Columbia Universities and the New York Freudian Society. She's a psychological consultant who brings parenting and work-life workshops to clinics, schools, and corporations in childcare settings. She's a contributor to the Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, and the New York Daily News and a contributing editor to the Institute of Family Studies. She also appears regularly on Fox and Friends and Fox Five News. She is the author of "Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters" and her second book, "Chicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety".   In this episode, Jordan and Erica Komisar discuss: What busy, stressed executives need to know about their adolescents What is happening in the adolescents' brain that causes risky behavior How to respond to risky behavior so you do not trigger more risky behavior A lot of the problems parents have with adolescents are due to misleading information Neuroscience says that adolescence now begins at 9 years old and ends around 25 years. It can extend into the 30's.  Key Takeaways The mental health crisis: 1 in 5 children or adolescents will experience a major form of mental illness which has to be medicated. Suicide rates have tripled.  In response to risky, arrogant behavior you need to accept them and empathize with their underlying fear and shame before you enforce limits.  Adolescents need to go out into the world and try to be independent. They also need you to help them process the feelings that underlie risky, arrogant behavior. If parents wrongly assume their adolescents don't need them, they won't be there enough to help them learn self-regulation.   "Children and adolescents live in a world that's like a fish bowl, an exhibitionist world where everything is exposed." —  Erica Komisar   Get the complimentary guide: How To Select An Executive Coach at www.selectcoach.workplacewarrior.com    Get the Am I Abrasive Self Test at abrasive.workplacewarrior.com    Connect with Erica Komisar:   Website: https://www.ericakomisar.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erica-komisar-lcsw-305bb218/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/EricaKomisarCSW  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EricaKomisarLCSW/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericakomisar/    Connect with Jordan:  Get the complimentary guide: How To Select An Executive Coach at www.selectcoach.workplacewarrior.com  Get the Am I Abrasive Self Test at abrasive.workplacewarrior.com    Website: www.workplacewarriorinc.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/jordangoldrich1 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jordan.goldrich Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jordangoldrich/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jgoldrich/