Ep 51: It’s Not High Conflict, It’s Post-Separation Abuse with Kaytee Gillis

The misconception that once a victim leaves an abusive relationship they are safe and can move on leaves the majority of survivors without the support they need and alone as they mitigate post-separation abuse.In her new book, It’s Not “High Conflict” it’s Post Separation Abuse, Kaytee Gillis, LCSW shares the story of this dynamic in a gentle, yet realistic way.  In this episode, we explore some of the most common themes during post-separation abuse, specifically how our current family court system not only allows this to happen but supports continued abuse.  Kaytee shares some tips on how to make it through this difficult time using the N.E.B. technique for communication with an abusive ex (Necessary, Emotionless, and Brief). The importance of Never Assessing the Patterns (N.A.P.) by labeling your ex-partner as a Narcissist or using the term abuse in the courtroom.  And we also discuss the all too real experience of having to respond and attend family court without legal representation due to financial abuse.Kaytee is a psychotherapist, author, and consultant with a passion forworking with survivors of relationship and family trauma.  Her recent book, It's Not High Conflict, it's Post Separation Abuse, sheds light on the way abusers take advantage of the legal system to continue their abuse. Her blog on Psychology Today, Invisible Bruises, posts articles in supportof family and relationship trauma survivors. Kaytee has been featured on Psychology Today, iHeart radio, Psychotherapy Networker, The Dr. Wendy Walsh Show, CP24 News out of Toronto, Newsweek, Shaye Ganam, and others.Kaytee has given trainings for The Zur Institute on recognizing patterns of domestic violence and helping survivors move forward. Trainings are available for all clinicians on her website or on The Zur Institute.To get in touch with Kaytee:www.kaytlyngillislcsw.comInstagram: @KurleeKayteeInstagram: @Claras_ _Voice – support for relationship trauma survivors and alliesFacebook: @KayteeLCSWFacebook: Claras Voice- a group in support of relationship trauma survivors and alliesTwitter: @Kaytee_GillisBlog: Invisible Bruises, Psychology TodayBuy her book! It’s Not “High Conflict” it’s Post Separation AbusePlease leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/Wondering where to start? Check out our top free resources - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/resources.htmlIf you're interested in guesting on the show, please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest