Ep. 51 Out Of Class - Defining moment, Narratives, Drifters, Plodders, Decision Makers

Matt, Gines and Ben get back together this week for another Out Of Class chat. They chat about segregation with age. At school, there is clear boundaries. They chat about, when you get older the gap between ages reduces. The separation gets less when that transition happens to adulthood. This happens quicker when you are swimming with adults. Much like learning a new skill or upskilling. You get better when you are surrounded by people around you.    Matt shares when he was younger he thought he knew everything. The typical 18-year-old bravado, then a switch occurred. Ben explores is it an age thing or is it a defining moment.  Ben talks about the time he fell out of the palm tree. Until then he felt unstoppable, where the world revolved around him. It was a saga in getting Ben to hospital in Fiji. Post fall and crushing his heel, it was a dark time. There was an identity shift as the recovery took longer than expected. The moment realising that he was not in control was devasting.  Gines chats about his defining moment being two fold, when his brother died in a car accident when he was 14. That experience made him grow up quite fast and realise that tomorrow is not a given. Coupled with chasing a degree for the money then realising there is another way to do life here.  The fellas chat about buying into a narrative. Clinical psychologists say that this needs to be driven by fear and a sense of unease in their world. Secondly, there needs to be a lack of connection to purpose. When you take lack of meaning plus fear is the perfect storm for a stronger narrative. As people, we are needing some sort of certainty to hold on to.  Currently, in our world, there are Drifters, Plodders and Decision-makers. We all can choose which one we want to be. But not choosing you are also choosing. For more updates and to subscribe head to - lifelonglearnerpodcast.com Facebook Instagram Youtube [email protected]