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Sep 8, 2020 33 min

Ep.519 Dean Graziosi

from The Daily Grind Podcast Hosted by Colin Morgan

Dean Graziosi knows how to create success. From extremely humble beginnings Dean started with a firewood business in high school, to a collision repair shop, and his first real estate deal before the age of 20. From there he went on to create a multimillion-dollar real estate business, became a Multiple NY Times best selling Author, 16 years every day on TV, and is one of the most-watched real estate and success trainers of our generation. Dean maximized the success and profits in each of these endeavors along with his evolution and his businesses and brand have helped change countless lives. Dean is obsessed with sharing the Success Habits learned along this journey with the world. Dean's newest book, The Underdog Advantage shares how your so-called disadvantages are the fuel you need and the hidden superpower that can propel you to do amazing things with your life. Key Moments Dean just moved into a new office, house, got married, started a partnership with Tony Robbins, and has a new book out! His parents worked hard but didn't end up with much. Dean got disturbed and wanted more for his family. He wanted to retire his mom. Dean like us struggled internally with what society thought he should do and what he wanted. That insecure voice, you need to learn how to silence it, or better yet let the other voice drown it out. Think of your future and let that fuel you. Change your story and change your life. Lock onto someone who has done it and follow what they do. Course correct. Dying with untapped potential is the worst thing ever. The story of George Washington inspired him to write The Underdog Advantage. Every single successful person was an underdog. Top 3 Takeaways 1. When you realize that life happens for us and not to us, it is a true gamechanger. 2. Think of 5-years from today, if nothing changed, would you be happy with your life? 3. It all starts with the belief that you can. Connect With Dean VISIT> https://www.deangraziosi.com/ Get Dean's New Book> deansbook.com Today's episode was brought to you by EBAY CANADA. If you’re a Canadian small business retailer or know someone who is, visit ebay.ca/upandrunning. Need a website? Visit tailorpage.com

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Hey everybody, happy Tuesday, and welcome back to another episode here of the Daily Grind on today's episode we are joined by legendary Dean Graziosi. Absolutely no introduction is needed, enjoy. Today's episode is brought to you by eBay Canada. eBay Canada continues to help retailers bring their businesses online quickly through the up and running program.

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Again, that is ebay.ca forward slash up and running. If you don't know Dean, I'm sure a lot of you do, but Dean knows how to create success. From extremely humble beginnings, Dean started with a firewood business in high school, to a collision repair shop in his first real estate deal before the age of point. From there, he went on to create a multi-million dollar real estate business, became a multiple New York Times best-selling author, 16 years every day on TV, and is one of the most watched real estate and success trainers of our generation.

He maximized the success and profits in each of these endeavors along his evolution, and his business and brand have helped change countless lives. Dean is obsessed with sharing the success learned along the journey with the world. Dean's newest book, which is released today, The Underdog Advantage, shares how your so called disadvantages are actually the fuel you need, and are the hidden superpower that can propel you listening to do amazing things with your life. Everyone, today's episode is mind-blowing.

It will open your eyes and give you a new perspective on life as it did for me. Be sure, as always, you have a pen, you have a piece of paper, sit back, and really dive deep in today's interview with Mr. Dean Graziosi. Enjoy.

Well, Dean Graziosi, welcome to the Daily Grind. Thank you so much for being here. Good to be here, man. Absolutely.

Dean, what's new? Let's start there. What's new in your world? What's exciting?

This is probably what's new. That definition of what's new this year, it's new to me. This year, I just moved into our new office. We worked last year to build our headquarters, and I've really called it headquarters before, but it's an awesome space, and I really designed it from ground up.

I moved into a new house this year. I got married this year. Congratulations. My son and dad have a baby, and business is booming.

I've started a new partnership with Tony Robbins this year, and that's gone on to be amazing. I have a new book coming out. My last book is almost at a million copies. My new books, I think, are going to be the best seller ever, and I'm just feeling really grateful.

I say that, not the brag, because believe me, I've been lost, miserably failed, miserably completely broke, stressed, up all night with anxiety, so I've been in every phase. If you're listening right now, I just want you to know wherever you are, drive it in your car on the way to a job you hate, or head into a business that's thriving, or head of a business that's not putting out the money you want, or a business that you're scared of right now, making it all. If you know my word, no matter where you are at this time, listening to this podcast with Colin and I, I've been there, and my goal is here to serve today to hopefully deliver a few things that you can implement in your life that can shift you in the direction you deserve to go. So, yeah, that's where I'm at.

I love it. So, Dean, let's start here. When did Dean Graziosa become this version of Dean Graziosa? Because you mentioned, you've been broke, you've been in a job you don't like, you've been unsatisfied, haven't made the money you want to make, what turns you into the Dean today?

No, really great question, Colin, and I love all the questions framed differently than just talking about. So, where did you start? Right? It really does, it puts a different perspective and you'll get a different answer than I've ever given before.

And I think, I want to share this with everybody because I'm going to try to share my story so people can get stuff at it for themselves. And what I would say to that answer is what shaped me were the things I was trying to run away from. And I want to share that with everybody in your life, everybody who's listening right now and everybody that's in your life of those listening is, this is my dear friend Tony Robbins says this all the time and it impacted my life, but it's something I've lived by for a long time is when you realize that life happens for us, not to us, it's a big game changer, like a total mentorship because there's so many people listening right now that you're trying to make it all work. It just seems like you get in the carpet pulled out from underneath your people around you don't believe in you or you just don't have the money to get started and all these different things.

It doesn't mean they're not real, they're real. But when you find a moment where that, this is going to sound like it disgusts you or you're just not willing to accept that life. If you get to a point where you say, I'm no longer accepting this, but this has to be a part of my life today because what if God, the universe, whatever you believe in is putting all that shit for lack of a better word in your life. So you make the move and most people get the nudges, they get the push, they get the upset stomach, they get the stressful nights, they get the anxiety, they go, I worry, but they just stay in the same spot.

It's like the fight or flight like they just stand still hoping something will change like who moved my cheese? I just want more cheese to come. And when you say what made me is, there's a million things and you know that Colin, but I would say running away from a family, my dad and mom worked their tails off like my dad worked on cars every day from six o'clock in the morning, came home late. My mom cut hair, painted houses, cleaned houses to make 90 bucks a week.

My parents were split when I was three. I watched both of them work hard to have nothing. I watched both of them work hard. We live in a trailer car.

And I think I could have followed. There's not many people in my entire family and extended family that I've done well. They just followed the norm. But I got so disturbed Colin, like that's not the way life was supposed to be.

And everybody kept doing what everybody else was doing. So what shifted is saying, I want to retire my mom, I'm sick, I mean, I'm never thinking that dude, I'm not getting it 10 years old. Like I'm retiring my mother because she works her ass off for nothing. And I watch people disrespect her.

My mom was a beautiful woman. One of the prettiest ladies I've ever seen but didn't consider herself very smart. I'm really severe dyslexia and never diagnosed it. So she quit school halfway through 11th grade.

And you know, so I think she always had this insecurity. And I'm like, no way. You're a beautiful, amazing woman. I'm getting this.

And a lot of it is the billion, Colin, you talked to more successful people than most, right? You're doing this on the daily grind. There's those moments in life where they can be your anchor that go, this is what our family does. We work really hard and don't have much.

Or that same circumstance for somebody almost exactly the same goes, screw this, it's over. I'm unwilling to accept this and I'm going to find a way. And who knows? I had no idea what the hell that way.

It was going to be. I worked on firewood. I fixed cars. I bought and sold cars.

And I got into real estate and real estate changed my life. And who knew I'd write books and do courses and training and speak on stages and all that kind of stuff. I was willing to let my life continue in that same way. And I think that's what crafted me.

I mean, foundation, right? There's all the other stuff. Of course. That's what started this transition.

So during those moments where you didn't want to live the life your parents did, you wanted to step out into something that you were passionate about, you wanted to live in abundant life, what were some of the things you were doing which led you to some of those aha moments that have taken you where you are right now? Okay. So first, dude, I'm really enjoying this conversation. Because I want to share, I want to back up.

I want to cover today and look out for them. I want to cover the nuances most people skip over. Because you said that question. I have an answer for that.

But here's something else first. Okay. If you're listening right now and you're sick of the job or sick of the job that the business is not working or sick of other people telling you what you can do or can't do, all the same frustrations, all every successful person has in the beginning. There's also, for me, as you were saying, I remember the two voices.

So imagine this is my situation, right? Dyslexia got it from my mom. Wasn't that smart? Ready to quit school in 11th grade.

But instead I just got out of like 11 o'clock and went to work, right? So I wasn't going to college. My guidance counselor pretty much said no college. Okay.

Why don't you work at the only factory in our town at minimum wage? Like there was nothing in between. So part of me, this is the inner dialogue. And maybe if you're listening, I wish I was in front of you could tell me if you had this inner dialogue.

Part of me was like, well my guidance, I'll use that example, legit, I'm sitting with Maureen Kannosa and she says, oh, no college, huh? Well, you could work with your dad on cars or maybe you could work at the local factory. Like just like that. Like nothing like you're ambitious, you're hungry, you could be mentored by somebody.

Read these books. Go buy this course, get in this mastermind. No, college is good. And I remember the dialogue between the two different people inside of me.

And maybe I'm crazy, but maybe I'm not. I remember saying, oh my God, I'm screwed. Like if I make $1,000 a week someday, I'd be lucky, maybe I can get a construction job. Like maybe maybe I'm not that smart.

Maybe I could work my way up in that factory and get to 60 grand a year someday. And at the same time, there was another book voice going, F you Maureen Kannosa, who the hell do you think you are? Tell me what I'm going to do in my fucking life. Excuse my language.

But like, don't you dare tell me what I could do. If I'm going to make more than you next year in two weeks and you make an entire year, wait until you see me. In my yearbook, I wrote, you don't hear me now, but someday you'll see me shut. Like that was my quote by the book.

So I was that guy, like screw you, wait, you see what I do. But I was also the guy like, oh, you freaking kid, dude. You're not that smart. Nobody in your family has money.

You don't even know what you're going to do. Firewood. Fix cars and become a millionaire. Fix cars.

That's retarded. Just listen to what everybody says. Just follow the note. So I remember those two voices like yesterday.

And if you ever have those dialogues, I'm telling you the crappy little insecure voice, that inner insecurity, that voice needs to get shut up because it's a liar. It's not true. It's somebody else's beliefs. It's an old belief you have.

And you've got to kill it. And you've got to listen to that other voice. And the louder voice that you can do it just was 5% stronger than the negative voice and it allowed me to win. Yeah, that's so powerful.

You know, it's funny. You're the way you're talking. But my father, I played sports growing up. He gave me a little book.

And it was probably the only book I ever read. I don't know if you've ever heard of it. It's called The Intergame of Tennis. I haven't.

I'll read it. Yeah. If you're, I mean, you write amazing book. You'll love this.

It talks about self-one and self-two. And he always used to film the line. And it was, you know, we all get butterflies. Our job's not to get rid of them.

It's to get them to fly in formation. And, you know, as you're talking, like all this stuff just starts connecting because I think every single person in the world, regardless of their billionaires and I've spoken to them or people who are at low level, we all have those two inner voices. Everyone, we all do. And I just believe, like, I see people and I see their inner self doubt.

I mean, that's what my last book, Millionaire Success, which is really about is how you break that self, inner self doubt, that inner self talk, the one who says, you know, maybe we'll do this next year. Maybe this isn't the right time. Maybe this isn't the right president to try to build my own business. Maybe it's Facebook marketing is over saturated.

Maybe right. Like that little inner voice, like that voice we have to call that voice a liar. We have to find a way to shut that voice up because I believe people who find a level and stay there, that voice finally won. And I don't feel like that voice like becomes your king.

It's just a little bit more powerful than the voice that says you can't and if it wears it out, the voice that says you can finally just gets quiet and then you spend the next 40 years, you basically died and you stay on the search for another 40 years getting by. Yeah, so true. So taking a step back, because I love your book Millionaire Success Habits. So for people kind of stuck in that influx, right, like what are some habits that can help them get out of that?

Whether that be small little things that they can do every day or stuff that just can take them to that next level. Really great question. And I would say this, like a million, just you know, when you say the way my brain works, it's like just picture like 500 arrows pointing to one spot and that's like my center of my brain. Like I have 500 answers.

I want to give you to that. But one that just came through the strongest is wherever you are right now. If you're driving in your car listening to this or your home or you're working out or running and you're listening to this podcast, let's picture right now. It's five years from today and you're walking and you're listening.

And that belief, that story, that inner voice that's telling your players to play a little small. You should be happy with what you have. Don't be greedy. Don't overstep your bounds.

You're not that smart. You don't have the time. Think of it as five years from today. And your life is exactly the same.

This picture, how does that feel right now if your life is exactly the same five years from today? And when you wonder why you didn't start the business or scale the business or you're having more abundance of your life is because you get power to that story, that story that was a lot. How did that feel in your soul? Like visualize that for a second.

It's five years from today. You look a little older. You got a little more crow's feet around your eyes. You put five pounds on and you're in a car a couple of years older and nothing's changed.

How's that going to feel if that was ten years from now? Ten years from right now. You're doing the same crap with the same inner story. How pissed off are you at that story, that belief?

Because what will hold you back is that crappy story that you can face today. You can look that story in the eye and say, Bullshit, I'm changing that story. Other people have these same circumstances. Other people were broke.

Other people didn't have people supporting them. Other people were single moms. Other people were dads going through a bad relationship and a bad job with no money to start the stream you have. Everyone's been there.

Find someone. Find the strategies. Find the secrets. Lock on to someone who's done it and try to just course correct.

Just course correct. You're thinking. Everybody always wants the magic money machine. It all starts with this.

I don't care what anyone says. I've been blessed to be friends with billionaires and the most successful people on the planet. It all starts with the belief that you can. That's why I love to spend time.

It's why I wrote Millionaire Success, that's why my new book, The Underdog Advantage, it's coming out. It's all about anchoring in this foundation. You can find your beacon of light where you belong, where you're supposed to be, that God gave you or you believe in the universe, whatever you believe in. You were given abilities and you're not using them.

The greatest plight of our time is knowing you have untapped potential. Dying with untapped potential is got to be the worst thing in history and I just don't want anybody to do it. That's why I push my books. I pull over YouTube, Facebook, Instagram.

I can't help people if they don't read my books. It sounds like the first stage is going through that daydream where you close your eyes and you start to visualize what you want. Not what you have right now, but what you want. Probably what you learned in the inner game of tennis.

You're visualizing what the shot looks like when it hits on the other side. You're visualizing how you get a strong serve and you still return it. If you visualize on missing, you'd miss. If you visualize on hitting, you've got a better chance of hitting it.

So true. Let's move into... I mean, you touched on this briefly. It's part of your new book, but the power and what it is that you do is being able to show people that some of the stuff that you went through in your darkest moments, some of those really deep struggles that you had, you can actually use those to your advantage to move you forward and do something special with your life.

So if you wouldn't mind touching a little bit about how people can actually do that. Really great conversation. I love this. I'm really enjoying this, Colin.

I appreciate it. Because it's almost like, as I'm listening to you, it's like, what if the frame was even deeper? What if it was like, how do you take these things that aren't good and try to get them to help you? What if they were actually designed for you as a tool, but you're just missing?

Like, you have a toolbox. And your job is to cut down a tree, and you're trying to do it with an axe. And you don't realize that inside your toolbox is a chainsaw, full of gas, ready to cut the tree down in two seconds. But you're just hammering away with an axe over and over because someone showed you, hey, that clunky...

If you were an Indian, an Aztec Indian cutting down a tree and you never saw a mechanic, you'd say, oh, no, I got to use this machete, right? Like, you didn't realize this ugly, weird, heavy thing that looks like a small monster is actually the chainsaw that could cut down the tree 20 times, 100 times faster. And that's why I wrote underdog advantages. What if being an underdog, which we all feel like an underdog, which we all underdogs were all underdogs at some point, or maybe our entire lives?

What if that was actually our gift? What if it was designed for us, like I said earlier, and you're just not realizing it? So when I was doing research for this book, I really geeked out on underdogs throughout time. And I listened to a 42-hour book on the life of George Washington.

And you would think, oh, that sounds boring. It was one of the most amazing books ever because he was an underdog his entire life. And let me just read you. I'm going to read you something really quick here.

Awesome. Just share a couple of the chapters. So in underdog advantage, it says, chapter one, underdogs have nothing to lose. Underdogs can use the power of you can't.

Underdogs act fast and improve quickly. Underdogs are relentlessly resourceful. Underdogs self-educate. Underdogs have to take care of what, don't have to care about what other people think.

Underdogs turn desperation into persuasion. So in that context is, let's just take George Washington. Everybody knows George Washington, you know, chopped down the cherry tree, which did obviously but George Washington worked really hard, was an underdog and helped make America free, right? And gave us our independence.

But George Washington was a underdog from day one. I'm not going to tell the whole George Washington story, but I want to tell you these different perspectives. So maybe you could see it through the eyes. Looking at it, as a public figure, no matter where you're on the world listening, everybody knows the story of George Washington, said, look at him as a public figure on what he had to do.

I'm going to ask you for the next five minutes to look through his eyes as if you were standing there, right? It's the late 1700s. George Washington is born the fifth child. By the time it gets to him, his dad's broke.

So all those other siblings go to college. He doesn't go to any school because there's nobody left and his dad does. His mom is relentlessly evil and nothing George Washington does is good enough, nothing. He was the one that didn't go to college.

He was the one that went to work right away and, I mean, he could do anything and she was rough on him. So fast forward a little bit. The army, which we're controlled by the British, America's controlled by the British at that time. So he gets in the British army, becomes a higher ranking official, same high ranking official as those born in England.

But because he was born in America, they looked down on him. He was an underdog. He didn't go to college. So they gave him half the pay and they wouldn't let him in meetings and they gave him the worst assignments.

Always belittling him, always underestimating him, always never seeing him coming. They gave him the worst jobs during the French and Indian War, like set up to fail over and over. Now fast forward. He's using all of these things as leverage, but just fast forward.

There's a little fight, a little battle in Boston. The king of England says, I'm done. I'm not messing with these rebels. He sends 30,000 troops from England, 10,000, which are Hessians, hired fighters from Germany.

They're ruthless. They'd rather bayonet you in the face than take you captive. They're just the fighters. Right?

At the time, the British army and the British navy are the strongest in the world. Nobody messes with it. They send 30,000 troops in New York City to wipe out George Washington in his ragtag band. Now I want you to look through, you're sitting in a tent.

It's winter. It's cold. You got 6,000. George Washington has 6,000 people in the army, you know, the revolutionary army.

They go from 14 to 60. They only have enough gunpowder for two bullets each. A third of them don't have shoes, 25% don't even have coats, and none of them have ever fought before. So picture of the strongest army in the world, 30,000, they're in the Bay of New York.

George Washington's up against them with no chance, like he's done. They come in. They take Staten Island. They take Long Island.

They take Fort Lee, New Jersey. They take Upper West Side. They take Brooklyn. They just wipe them out.

Not only they wipe them out, 6,000 troops, like just think you're George Washington in leaving this. They're down to 4,000. Then the British army says, Hey, if you guys come over to me, we'll give you money and we'll forgive you. Another thousand people jump off of George Washington's bandwagon and go over to the other side.

George Washington's racing through New Jersey with 3,500 people, blood in the snow because they don't have shoes on, and this army is hunting them down to kill them. Now if you don't know the outcome, you're like, that's over. It's done. You're an underdog, George Washington.

It's over. This is so literally it's Christmas Eve night. And these are some of the things that's why I want to read those to you. It's Christmas Eve night.

He's been an underdog his whole life. He's been told that he can't do it. You're not smart enough, George. You didn't go to school, George.

You're not a British neighbor, George. And he had the edge. He had the power of you can't, not the disadvantage of you. The underdogs act fast and improve quickly.

We don't have to make decisions fast because we don't have anybody guiding us. We're not privileged. If you said underdogs are relentlessly resourceful. Think about this.

If you could give somebody a million bucks. Do you have kids? I don't. You know, so if you have kids, would you rather wish your kids can have a million dollars from you to start their own business or be relentlessly resourceful?

So would you rather give them resources or resourcefulness? Resourcefulness for sure. That's right. So George Washington, they never saw him coming.

They gave the power to him. He was relentlessly resourceful. He self-educated by studying every single book he possibly could and he didn't give a shit or other people think because the army said this is the days you fight. You don't fight on Christmas.

Then you fight by lining up and you shoot each other in a field. He didn't give a crap what anybody thought because he was an underdog. And he persuaded the relentlessly persuasive. He persuaded his army of 3,500 people to cross the Delaware in the middle of the night.

Three o'clock in the morning. The coldest day of the year. They're freezing. They got one shot each.

They crossed the Delaware and 3,500 are going to attack the 10,000 Hessians who just slaughtered 2,000 of their buddies. He did all those things. Now think about this. That's when he wrote victory or death.

He freaking goes crosses. He overtook the Hessian army in 45 minutes. Wow. Guns took their money.

He marches them up to Princeton. They win battle two. It's the beginning of the ship. Seven years later we have America.

Now, I only tell that story because we've all heard George Washington about that figure. But think about being in that guy's eyes. I've got 42 hours. This guy was an underdog this whole life.

But he had what every successful person I know. I'm blessed to be friends with Richard Branson. And I got to hang out with John Paul DeGiorio and Tony Robbins is my dearest friend. I have all these great people in my life.

Every one of them were absolute underdogs who had nothing to lose. They used the power of you can't to act fast and improve quickly. They were relentlessly resourceful. They self-educated.

They didn't give a shit what other people think. All of those things were the common factors. So what I wanted to do is say, hey, we're all underdogs. How about having a guidebook that shows you how to turn what you think is a weird, heavy metal thing in your toolbox.

How to turn your disadvantages into that chainsaw of life. And I've had this vision for this book for like five years and I finally wrote it and I freaking love it. You're telling the story. I'm getting jacked up right now.

And I think you're going to take all those moments. It's the adversity life throws at you. And it's how you deal with that adversity. Like I didn't even know for my life.

I say this all the time. Like I feel like I didn't face adversity until I was 18. And that's why it took me years in order to build up that muscle. Because when you don't do something, you don't know how to respond to it, right?

So true. And you know what? I have to tell you something. I faced a lot of adversity at a younger age, right?

And not poor me. Just a lot of stuff like that. I was married nine times by the time I was 20. I moved 20 times.

We got evicted from places. My dad couldn't handle the divorce and made life really brutal for us. So I had to overcome adversity nonstop. And I have to tell you, I worry my kids because I had to overcome so much.

I probably don't let them overcome much adversity. And I'm worried about them. And I'm literally, I've been creating things in their life right now that allows them to have to think and things not always going perfect because if they're not prepared, I mean, yes, it's what you say. Yes, I'm in the car.

I have a 11 and 13. Well, they're going to be 11 and 13 months. So I'm in the car with my kids yesterday and I said to my daughter, I'm like, what was the, I asked both of my daughter first, I said, what was the scariest thing that you can remember facing in your life? My kids know when they're like, uh, lesson time from dad, you know, but I said, what was the scariest thing you ever faced?

She's like, I don't know, probably going to summer camp two years ago when I was 10. And I said, well, I have that feels because I didn't tell you guys, but I was so scared and then when you drop this off because they don't get cell phones, nothing. They go to camp that they go and they get reports from the teachers, but you don't talk to your kid. I was scared, you know, and I'm probably way overprotective dad.

So I dropped off and she said, when you drop me off, I cried for two days straight. I missed you guys so much. Like I couldn't take it. I wanted to call and tell them to beg me to come home and I hated it.

And she was, but day three, I felt a little better. And then by day six, I didn't want to leave. And she goes this year, I want to go for two weeks. And I said, well, how did you feel?

She said, Oh my God, like it allowed me to cope. I cried. I cried myself to sleep. But I realized it was so, I mean, it came out of her mouth.

My daughter is no different than any daughter's listening. She's magnificent. But I was so impressed. She's like, I learned to self-soothe.

Like I cried. I was like, okay, I'm sad because I miss my parents. But I still can have fun here. And she had this incredible lesson.

And I was so glad I asked her. And she said about her brother, who's like really, maybe I'm too protective of him too. She's like, and Brody needs to go. And Brody, no, it's okay to cry.

That's how you learn. And you learn more when you got to figure stuff out. And I was like, man, I'm doing a good freaking job for it. For not having a lot of adversity.

Like at least I'm teaching him the theory of it, right? But yeah, we all learn from our hardest time. Yeah, and it's funny because during those moments, you don't see it like that. Like I kind of always equate it to like when you're going through those dark moments, it's your tunnel vision because you have an inability to see outside of yourself.

Completely. And not only is it tunnel vision, here's something I want to tell everybody. If you're going through a shitty time right now or a tough time, you're probably going, Dean, so I'm so so appreciate this. You never appreciate it.

Ever. It's never a moment where you say, oh, I'm so glad everything went sideways. I'm so glad the business family doesn't support me. But I promise you, there is a time when you trust the process.

When you go, this sucks. But I'm going to grow. I can't wait to see who I'm going to be on the other side of this. I can't wait to see the gifts I find.

I can't wait for the abundance that's waiting for me. And when you start looking at it through those eyes, it doesn't make it better, but it makes it different because you know that the next level of view doesn't exist without going through that journey. And I love that. Well, for people out there who want to learn about when that book's coming live, how they can get their hands on it and follow you along with your journey, where's the best place everyone can go, Dean?

So that book, the underdog advantage comes out December 9th and they can Dean's book.com. Dean's book.com. Now, here's the thing. You've got Amazon.

I think it's going to be on Amazon for 1995. That's cool. You can go there. I think it's a book.

What we have is we paid for the book. We ask people to cover shipping and handle. I think it's seven or eight bucks for shipping and handling and we send you the hard cover. So either one, this book's going to be fire.

I can't wait to get in people's hands. I can't wait to read it either. I've been starting it, which is absolutely amazing. Everyone that's deansbook.com.

And Dean, the way we're on the show here on the Daily Grinds is we're going to give you the floor and give you the opportunity today to share with our audience a thought of the day. So one thing, one thought, maybe something you're thinking about, or a message you want the audience to go home with, we'll give you the floor. Yeah, appreciate that. I know what it feels like to have people you love, disappoints you or not believe in you.

But the older I get that I'm 50 this year, I've been an entrepreneur for over 30 years, is I wish someone would have shaken me earlier in my life and said, it has nothing to do with any of that. It has nothing to do with where you were born, what you have, what job you have right now, the tough struggle some of you might be going through. It has to do with what you believe and the story you tell yourself. If you tell yourself on a regular basis that those things and things holding you back, they will.

I know that might, especially if you're in a tough spot, you want to go, yeah, that's easy for you to say, now Dean, you got money. I'm telling you, I've been in every situation you've been in. Change the story about where you're going. Change the story on your circumstances and you'll change your life.

Change the story, change your life, work on it, obsess on it. If you took nothing else from today, know that your story's holding you back more than any outsider circumstance could ever. Well, Dean, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking time out of your schedule and coming on the show here and sharing your wisdom with the Daily Grinds audience today. I don't know if you know this, but the first time we've been speaking, but you've been a mentor of mine for a very, very long time and it's an honor to be on this podcast with you.

Oh, thanks Colin. Appreciate those kind words. Everybody else go out and get it, man. You deserve it.

And there you have it for today's interview, everyone. I would love to hear your comments on this. Be sure you're subscribed to the podcast. Leave us a comment.

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Until then, Colin Morgan signing off and always remember to keep on grinding.

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