EP 522: Releasing Shame and Feeling Compassion for Yourself with Sheylee

In this deeply moving session, Christine supports Sheylee—a devoted mother who is pregnant with her seventh child and struggling under the weight of shame, overwhelm, and fear. After believing she was done having children, this unexpected pregnancy has stirred painful emotions, identity confusion, and unresolved relational patterns in her partnership. Christine helps her gently unravel the layers of guilt, inner criticism, and pressure she has carried for years. Together, they explore how to hold two truths at once: loving a child while not feeling joyful about the circumstances, being grateful and overwhelmed at the same time, and honoring both human emotion and spiritual perspective. If you've ever felt shame for how you feel, feared getting "stuck" in a hard season, or struggled to access compassion for yourself, this conversation offers relief, grounding, and a renewed sense of permission to be honest about your emotional reality.   Consider / Ask Yourself: Is there something in your life you believe you "should" feel happy about—but you don't? Do you fear that if you let yourself feel your emotions, you won't be able to stop? Do you often feel unsupported—emotionally, spiritually, or relationally? Are you harder on yourself than anyone else is? Do you hear an inner critic more loudly than your own compassion?   Key Insights and A-HAs: Shame about how you feel is often more damaging than the feelings themselves. It is possible—and healthy—to hold two truths at once ("both/and"). Emotional release is not falling apart; it's moving energy through the body. Many women confuse caretaking with connection or worthiness. Inner critics often come from childhood patterns of control, hypervigilance, or judgment. Spiritual support (God, Mother Mary, or a higher loving presence) can hold us when people cannot.   How to Deepen the Work: Practice the both/and: "I love this baby AND I am overwhelmed." Create space each day to sit with your feelings rather than suppress them. Replace harsh self-talk with compassion through simple practices like Ho'oponopono: I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you. Call on unseen spiritual support when human support feels unavailable. Identify where old survival strategies are still active—and begin updating them with gentler internal dialogue. Explore ways to communicate needs in your partnership with clarity rather than collapse.   Sponsor: Cured Nutrition – Flow Gummies Christine recommends Flow Gummies from Cured Nutrition for clean, sustained energy and focus throughout the day. Formulated with Lion's Mane, ginkgo, and green coffee bean extract, these gummies support mental clarity without jitters, crashes, or artificial ingredients. Get 20% off your order at curednutrition.com/overit using code OVERIT   Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts, including Coach's Corner Instagram: @ChristineHassler | @SacredUnionCouples Facebook: Christine Hassler Book: Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler Email: [email protected] — For information on Christine's services Apply to be coached live on the show: christinehassler.com/waitlist