EPISODE · Jun 16, 2021 · 34 MIN
EP 530: Generosity and Interbeing
from Showing Up To Life · host Art Burns
“Often, when we say ‘I love you’ we focus mostly on the ‘I’ who is doing the loving and less on the quality of the love that’s being offered. This is because we are caught by the idea of self. We think we have a self. But there is no such thing as an individual separate self. A flower is made only of non-flower elements, such as chlorophyll, sunlight, and water. If we were to remove all the non-flower elements from the flower, there would be no flower left. A flower cannot be by herself alone. A flower can only inter-be with the rest of us… Humans are like this too. We can’t exist by ourselves alone. We can only inter-be. I am made only of non-me elements, such as the Earth, the sun, parents, and ancestors. In a relationship, if you can see the nature of interbeing between you and the other person, you can see that his suffering is your own suffering, and your happiness is his own happiness. With this way of seeing, you speak and act differently. This in itself can relieve so much suffering.” -Thich Nhat Hanh I share this quote to illustrate the connection we all have with each other. But of course, these beautiful and poetic words, written by the venerable Monk, are echoed by modern neuroscientists and researchers, as I mention quite often. In today’s episode, we take a deep dive into what it means to be connected and how to rewire all the years of belief in this concept of a separate self: If you have any questions about this or any other topics I cover here, I welcome you to reach out. You’re welcome to simply send me an email at [email protected] (Or reply to this email!) But you might enjoy a 1:1 conversation, instead. And it just so happens that you have a 1:1 coaching session that already has your name on it! To claim this session, please simply click this link and follow the prompts: https://calendly.com/artburns/45-min-coaching-session
What this episode covers
“Often, when we say ‘I love you’ we focus mostly on the ‘I’ who is doing the loving and less on the quality of the love that’s being offered. This is because we are caught by the idea of self. We think we have a self. But there is no such thing as an individual separate self. A flower is made only of non-flower elements, such as chlorophyll, sunlight, and water. If we were to remove all the non-flower elements from the flower, there would be no flower left. A flower cannot be by herself alone. A flower can only inter-be with the rest of us… Humans are like this too. We can’t exist by ourselves alone. We can only inter-be. I am made only of non-me elements, such as the Earth, the sun, parents, and ancestors. In a relationship, if you can see the nature of interbeing between you and the other person, you can see that his suffering is your own suffering, and your happiness is his own happiness. With this way of seeing, you speak and act differently. This in itself can relieve so much suffering.” -Thich Nhat Hanh I share this quote to illustrate the connection we all have with each other. But of course, these beautiful and poetic words, written by the venerable Monk, are echoed by modern neuroscientists and researchers, as I mention quite often. In today’s episode, we take a deep dive into what it means to be connected and how to rewire all the years of belief in this concept of a separate self: If you have any questions about this or any other topics I cover here, I welcome you to reach out. You’re welcome to simply send me an email at [email protected] (Or reply to this email!) But you might enjoy a 1:1 conversation, instead. And it just so happens that you have a 1:1 coaching session that already has your name on it! To claim this session, please simply click this link and follow the prompts: https://calendly.com/artburns/45-min-coaching-session
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