Ep. (56) I Feel Like I Am Failing at This

What if the meltdown that made you feel like a failure is actually proof that the healing is working?In this episode of Triggered & True, Laura Duncan and co-host Brian Freise get honest about a feeling every listener knows: "I feel like I'm failing at this." Whether you're brand new to the Compassion Method or 56 episodes deep, there will be moments — often right after some progress — when a huge triggered reaction leaves you embarrassed, ashamed, and certain you're doing it wrong. This entire conversation is here to tell you: you're not.Brian opens up about a recent big reaction of his own and the shame spiral that followed ("I do a podcast on this stuff, I should know better"), and Laura admits she still gets triggered too — and is genuinely grateful when she does, because a trigger is the doorway to the pain that's finally ready to be comforted. They dig into why this can't be mastered like a business process or a math equation: emotional healing isn't a skill you perfect, it's a lifelong practice, and the only thing you really become an "expert" in is vulnerability and humility. Most freeing of all, they redefine success: it's not doing the steps perfectly or never melting down. Success is being able to say "I still accept you, I still love you" to yourself in the exact moment you feel you have failed.In this episode: 🔹 Why a big triggered reaction isn't a setback — and is often a sign you're going deeper 🔹 Even the hosts still get triggered — and why Laura is grateful when she does 🔹 Why this can't be "mastered" like a business or math skill — healing isn't a formula 🔹 "You should know better": how a childhood shame message keeps running in adulthood 🔹 Redefining success as self-acceptance in the moment of perceived failure📩 Get your free Weekly Dose of Compassion — two short notes in your inbox every week. One to speak over yourself. One from Laura: https://www.lauraduncan.com/pl/2148814868🔗 Learn more: https://triggeredandtrue.comhttps://lauraduncan.com