Ep. (57) The Art and Science of The Remote Control Exercise

What if the emotional reaction you've been fighting to control for twenty years could simply stop being a reaction at all?In this episode of Triggered & True, Laura Duncan and co-host Brian Freise devote a full episode to the tool at the practical heart of the Compassion Method: the remote control exercise. They first introduced it back in Episode 6, but here they go deeper — into both the science of why it works and the art of doing it well — and issue an exciting invitation for a listener to walk through it live on a future episode.Laura explains why the exercise exists: understanding your triggers in a weekly session isn't enough because healing happens in real time, in real life. The remote control exercise actually rewires your brain so that your default shifts from "react" to "pause and connect" — and she's watched clients who practiced it for even two weeks discover they simply weren't angry anymore, not because they were white-knuckling it, but because the wound underneath got tended. She uses the image of a splinter left to fester: our triggers get louder and louder not to torment us, but because our heart is trying to get our attention to heal the infection underneath. And she unpacks the "art" of it — why your first answers stay surface-level, and how, with practice, you learn to go deeper and truly know yourself.In this episode: 🔹 What the remote control exercise is — and why understanding a trigger later isn't enough 🔹 The science: how practicing it rewires your default from "react" to "pause and connect" 🔹 Why trying not to get angry only works for so long before it boils over 🔹 The splinter metaphor: why your pain gets louder until you finally tend the wound 🔹 The "art" of going deeper — why your first answers are surface-level, and how practice changes that📩 Get your free Weekly Dose of Compassion — two short notes in your inbox every week. One to speak over yourself. One from Laura: https://www.lauraduncan.com/pl/2148814868🔗 Learn more: https://triggeredandtrue.com https://lauraduncan.com