Ep 59: Beyond the Birds and the Bees: Talking to Your Kids About the Lifestyle

A listener’s message sparks one of the most emotionally loaded conversations we’ve ever had as lifestyle parents. After receiving a text from her adult daughter that read, “I know about you and dad’s extracurricular activities,” we’re forced to confront a question many couples quietly avoid: What happens when your kids know… or might know… about your life?We unpack the initial wave of fear, embarrassment, and panic, but quickly move beyond the shock to something deeper—what it actually means to live openly and honestly when you’re confident in your choices. While none of our children know yet, Zack and Josie share why they’re preparing to tell their oldest daughters, answering the question Brad and Brittany posed: Why tell them at all?This episode isn’t about justifying the lifestyle or asking for permission. It’s about being grounded in your “why,” trusting yourself, and showing up without defensiveness. We talk about how being “out” can bring relief, clarity, and stronger boundaries, and why authenticity often matters more than perfect timing or flawless delivery.We also explore the realities parents wrestle with—how different kids may react very differently, how siblings can complicate things, and why the real conversation often isn’t about sex at all. It’s about values, honesty, and modeling what it looks like to live a full, intentional life.If you’ve ever wondered whether openness could bring peace—or if staying silent is really protecting anyone—this episode sits right in that uncomfortable, powerful space between fear and freedom.JOIN US in 2026 on the Bliss Cruise in February or at Naughty Nawlins and support our podcast by booking your ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠travel⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or purchasing your lifestyle products using our affiliate links. Please do us a favor and visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twoplustwopodcast.com/resources/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(00:00:00) MrsCaliente Cookies’ question(00:02:36) Your parents’ sex life(00:04:28) Initial reactions to the message(00:06:35) How did she find out and is it relevant?(00:09:14) A cautionary tale about text messages(00:12:50) Some children can handle it and others may not be able to(00:14:23) Your own opinion of the lifestyle can drive the conversation(00:16:27) Siblings may share the news with one another(00:18:01) Walking in on your parents(00:21:18) I’ve got a secret!(00:22:34) We’re planning to tell our kids soon(00:26:11) Disclaimer: it’s not just about having sex with other people(00:28:31) One couples’ son decided to get in the LS after ‘the conversation’(00:29:44) Focus on being authentic(00:30:25) Is this possible given recent struggles?(00:36:07) Relief can come from being ‘out’(00:37:41) Why the qualifiers?(00:42:15) Request to not play in her daughter’s town(00:46:16) Get to the bottom of the real concerns and address those(00:48:59) Readdressing the conversation after your initial reaction(00:52:44) You don’t need to convince anybody(00:54:00) Living your life for yourself and not your kids  We'd love to connect with you!Create your own FREE account on Peaches'nCream, the new social media app for your lifestyle!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://web.peachesncream.app/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INVITE CODE: 2PLUS2⁠Join the Two Plus Two Podcast Group on Peaches'nCream to see our exclusive photos, post your comments, ask questions and connect with Zack and Josie.Email us your thoughts, comments and ideas at:⁠⁠[email protected]⁠