Ep. 6 Rebirth and Rebuilding the Self after life change

Rebuilding the self before we venture into any new relationship  Loss of the familiar  Loss of the comfortable  Getting in touch with the self  Slowing down Sitting in silence  Step ONE- accepting the grief as being an essential part of the process  allowing ourselves to "feel" the feelings of grief in order to assimilate and process them  Consider a few simple tasks at hand  AND recall  It doesn’t happen overnight One drawer at a time One shelf at a time  One minute at a time  Reclaiming who we are  Building relationships with people who lift us up  AND  Love us unconditionally  Find the beauty in life  Compliment others  Read… self-help books/“shelf help” books  Journal Connecting to God or Universal Power Join a support group  Find other women going through a similar transition  Practice Extreme Self Care  Important here to remind ourselves and everyone that LIFE change in all areas is difficult  When we are faced with a change of any kind is a loss  Illness  Job loss  Death Move Pregnancy loss  Divorce  All require a shift in thinking and action. After we get done with the finger-pointing and blame… Its all their fault…it’s all my fault  Mercury is retrograde  Making excuses  If I only took better care of myself  I should have known better  What the hell was I thinking  Go through an array of emotions  Need to create a self-care plan  Have to do the work Transformation and change is only possible if you can let go…do the work…heal, rebirth and rebuild. The only way to get through the pain is to feel it first.  One has to embrace it and walk through the fire Examine what, if anything is currently working and serving us  And not until that time and healing has occurred  When to consider making changes When you are safe When you are strong When you are healing  When you are free to do so  When the "old you" is ready for a "new you" When you can handle the game and possible rejection  When you are ready to play again  What needs to change? First, ask yourself and write down your answers  Can I move on?  Do I want to move on?  How can I move on?  If the hint of an answer is YES… Next, ask yourself 3 questions and write down your answers  What’s one thing you’re doing right now not because it’s true for you, but because you feel it’s expected of you.  What’s one courageous change you’d like to make to be more true to yourself. What’s the first action step you can take now?   Finding ourself and healing after the loss of any kind is not a quick fix but a beautiful journey into a new unimaginable life  It’s a long careful detailed approach to deciding our next best step… My journey into healing started by cleaning up my diet… Paulette jokes that she lived on Snickers bars and Diet Coke…but It’s true.. Her idea of a healthy meal was a greek salad from a pizza joint  I had to clean up my diet  I had to clean up my buying habits I had to clean up my relationships  I had to clean up my wor