EP 6:Why You Keep Wanting Them More Than They Want You (And How to Finally Break the Pattern)

✨ Episode SummaryShezza unpacks the powerful difference between longing and desire, revealing how many people unknowingly operate from a place of lack that leads to suffering. She explains how longing is often rooted in low self-esteem, fear, and the need for external validation—especially in relationships—while true desire comes from a grounded sense of self and inner calm. This episode explores how all longing is ultimately a longing for oneself, and why cultivating self-love, wholeness, and trust in divine timing is essential for attracting aligned love.💡 Key Takeaways✨ Longing is rooted in lack and creates emotional suffering, while desire comes from wholeness and calm✨ Chronic longing can attract misaligned relationships and reinforce unhealthy patterns✨ Many people seek intimacy externally without first creating it within themselves✨ Self-love and inner work are essential to shift from desperation to grounded desire✨ Trusting divine timing allows relationships to unfold more naturally and sustainably✨ Gratitude and presence help realign energy toward what is truly meant for you🔮 What’s Next✨ Reflect on whether you’re approaching love from longing or grounded desire✨ Begin cultivating self-connection and emotional wholeness in your daily life✨ Stay connected for more teachings on intimacy, alignment, and conscious relationships✨ Reach out to work with Shezza as your Intimacy Oracle to transform patterns and attract aligned loveAbout the HostShezza is an intuitive guide, Tantra teacher, and somatic practitioner known as The Intimacy Oracle. With over 20 years of experience working with thousands of clients around the world, she helps people transform deep longing into grounded self-trust, embodied connection, and truly fulfilling relationships.Divine and Alive Tantra CourseThis upcoming course by Shezza, Divine and Alive Tantra, is a guided program designed to help individuals reconnect with their bodies and stay present during intimacy, especially for those who experience disconnection, numbness, or mental drifting. Through grounded, practical Tantra-based practices such as breathwork, movement, energy awareness, and emotional release, participants learn how to rebuild trust with their bodies and deepen their capacity for connection and sensation.🎙️About The Intimacy Oracle PodcastEmbody love. Deepen intimacy. Live fully.The Intimacy Oracle is where raw truth meets real transformation.In this podcast, Shezza shares the unfiltered journey of love, longing, connection, and what it actually takes to feel fulfilled in your body, your relationships, and your life. Blending Tantra, somatic healing, and intuitive insight, she brings humor, personal stories, and hard-earned wisdom from working with thousands of people.This is not about forcing positivity or trying harder. It is about understanding your patterns, your body, and your energy so intimacy stops feeling confusing or out of reach and starts becoming something you can actually live.If you have ever felt like you are longing for more, shutting down in connection, or repeating the same relationship patterns, you are not alone. And you are not broken.This is where we tell the truth, laugh at the human experience, and come home to ourselves.👉 YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts✨ Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shezzasheryl/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/shezza.waltersSubstack: https://substack.com/@horsvmWebsite: https://shezzasheryl.love/homeFor updates and new episodes✨ Join our Facebook Group for deeper conversations and weekly insights💛 Share this with someone ready to awaken their intimacy and connection.