Ep 66 — Annabelle Seife, PhD — Kink in Therapy

In this provocative and deeply insightful episode, we sit down with psychologist and couples therapist Dr. Annabelle Seife to explore the complex world of kink and BDSM. Together, we unpack what kink really means—beyond stereotypes and sensationalism—and why so many people are drawn to erotic experiences that play with power, control, and surrender. Dr. Seife guides us through a psychodynamic lens, offering a compassionate and nuanced understanding of kink as a meaningful expression of desire, not dysfunction. We explore the historical and clinical roots of why kink has been so pathologized in the mental health field, and how therapists can begin to unpack their own biases and better support clients whose erotic lives fall outside the “vanilla” norm. Whether you're a clinician, curious partner, or someone exploring your own sexuality, this episode invites a deeper, more human look at what turns us on—and why it matters.LOVELINK is hosted by Brooklyn-based therapists Dr. Signe Simon and Dr. Simone Humphrey. If you’d like to contact us directly, send us an email to [email protected].