Ep.66: Discovering Your Sexual Self: Sensuality, Pleasure, and Desire at Midlife

Hey there, friends! In this episode, we sit down with our fabulous returning guest, Dr. Juliana Hauser, to talk about her powerful new book, A New Position on Sex. Trust us when we say, this conversation is one you do not want to miss. Whether you're feeling disconnected from your sexual self, stuck in old beliefs, or just plain exhausted, Dr. Juliana offers an entirely new—and deeply empowering—way to approach sexuality in midlife.We dig into everything from sensuality and sexual agency to what it means to feel vibrant, connected, and alive again—on your own terms. You’ll hear real talk (and plenty of laughs) about shame, societal expectations, pleasure beyond the bedroom, and why embracing your sexuality is not about performing for others. If you've ever felt like sex was just one more to-do item or wondered what it means to be a sexual being when you're just plain tired, this episode is a beautiful, validating starting point. Episode Highlights:[0:41] - Welcoming back Dr. Juliana and diving into her new book on sexual agency [2:23] - Why sexuality looks different for every woman—and changes with life [6:12] - The “quiet part out loud”: What women really feel about sex at midlife [7:04] - How shame and comparison hold us back from sexual freedom [10:52] - Pajamas, books, and sensuality: reframing what it means to be sexual [12:27] - The crushing mental load that zaps our energy—and our libido [15:07] - What’s the real point of sex? Dr. Juliana challenges us to find our “why” [17:09] - Sexual energy as power, fuel, and a path to aliveness [21:13] - From invisible to vibrant: reclaiming visibility through sexual self-connection [27:38] - Dismantling the performance myth: what you want matters [33:09] - What is pegging? (Yes, we went there—and learned a thing or two) [36:19] - Exploring new sexual pathways with creativity and curiosity [40:22] - The power of safety, self-trust, and saying no with confidence [44:24] - Time is now: why midlife is the moment to claim your sexual agency [46:59] - Where to find Dr. Juliana, her book, and how to start your journey Links and Resources:Dr. Juliana’s Website: https://dr-juliana.com/ The Revealed Lift: https://therevealedlife.com/ Dr. Juliana’s book: A New Position on Sex https://drive.google.com/file/d/1OoHcmzMbKAImZG501v6l1cNM_DCOKv19/view?usp=drive_link   If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season.  Come join us—we’d love to have you!👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-bookRecognized by FeedSpot:Top 60 Couples Therapy Podcasts | Top 100 U.S. Mental Health Podcasts | Top 100 Relaxation Podcasts