Ep. 66 Mothers Breaking Cycles of Sexual Shame with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers

Download My Birthing Meditation⁠⁠⁠📲 Connect on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@drcindytahhan⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@rewireforbirthThis week on the Rewire For Birth Podcast, we’re welcoming someone every parent (and parent-to-be) needs in their corner: Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers—therapist, educator, and voice of truth around sexuality, shame, and the emotional legacy we pass down in families.Dr. Tina reminds us that parenting is “the longest short time.” The days can feel endless, but the years move fast—and what matters most is that we look back with joy not only at who our children became, but at how connected we stayed along the way.In this episode, we explore something many families never talk about openly—yet it quietly shapes everything: how we learned (or didn’t learn) about our bodies, desire, and intimacy. For most of us, the message growing up wasn’t clarity and confidence… it was silence, discomfort, or outright shame. And when kids don’t get honest language at home, they turn to friends, media, and the internet—often internalizing the belief that something is wrong with them for being curious.✨ In our conversation, Dr. Tina shares:Why conversations about bodies and sexuality matter even before conception, because intimacy and attachment are shaped long before we become parentsHow “somatic shame” forms—when a child’s natural curiosity is met with scolding, avoidance, or discomfort—and how it impacts self-esteem, relationships, and vulnerability later in lifeWhy even conscious parents get triggered by old wounds (and how awareness helps us respond with intention instead of default reactions)The cultural forces that reinforce shame—religion, family archetypes, abstinence-only education, porn, social media—and why today’s adults are often trying to navigate intimacy without a true roadmapHow healing can change a family legacy within one generationOne of the most powerful practices Dr. Tina offers is *reparenting yourself -nurturing the younger parts of you that didn’t receive honest, supportive guidance. She even suggests reading age-based body/sex education resources aloud to your inner child, imagining giving yourself what was missing, and letting shame lift slowly over time.We also talk about partnership and postpartum: how exhaustion and isolation can become the default when families don’t have a village—and why mothers (and relationships) need real nurturing in the early years, not more pressure to “do it all.”Dr. Tina invites couples to redefine intimacy as authenticity, playfulness, and nourishment, not transactional scripts. One simple tool: create a shared list of bonding activities for your current season—especially gentle, low-energy options after baby—so connection stays possible even when life feels full.💛 If finances are a barrier, Dr. Tina shared a generous offer: DM her at @drtinashameless and she’ll send promo codes so more families can begin this healing work.Check out her website: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/