EP 69: Diving In To The Black Hole Of Pain & Numbness: Nervous System Regulation With Amyee Oen

⬇️ READY TO GO DEEPER? Rewired Sober 1:1 Coaching Spots Are Open (But Fill Up Fast) Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance from Kate designed for women in sobriety. Book a discovery call to inquire: https://calendly.com/katevitelacoaching/deep-dive-1-1-w-kateConnect with Kate @rewiredsober on all social media platforms:Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/Email: [email protected] is talking about nervous system regulation—but what does that actually look like in real life?In this episode, Kate sits down with nurse coach Amyee to talk about emotional numbness, why so many women feel disconnected from themselves, and what’s really happening in the body after years of stress, trauma, and dysregulation.They explore the idea of numbness as a “black hole”—something many women avoid through coping behaviors like drinking, scrolling, shopping, overeating, and overworking. But what if those behaviors aren’t failures… and are actually attempts to regulate an overwhelmed nervous system?This conversation breaks down:why numbness happenshow the nervous system drives coping behaviorsthe difference between mindset work and somatic workwhy proper training matters in somatic coachingand how to start reconnecting with your body in practical, real-life waysIf you’ve ever felt checked out, flat, or like you’re just going through the motions—this episode will help you understand why… and what to do next.Key TopicsNervous system regulation in everyday lifeEmotional numbness and disconnectionTrauma, chronic stress, and dysregulationThe “black hole” of avoided emotionsWhy women numb out (alcohol, scrolling, food, shopping, overworking)Somatic work vs. mindset workThe importance of training and expertise in somatic coachingPractical tools for grounding and staying presentWhat We Get IntoNumbness Isn’t RandomWhy feeling flat, disconnected, or “off” is often the result of a chronically overwhelmed nervous system—not a personal failure.The Black HoleThe uncomfortable truth: many women avoid deeper pain, grief, or unresolved emotions by staying busy, distracted, or numbed out—and what it takes to actually face that space.Coping Isn’t the ProblemDrinking, scrolling, eating, shopping, overworking—these aren’t just bad habits. They’re attempts to regulate stress when your system doesn’t feel safe.Why Mindset Isn’t EnoughYou can’t think your way into feeling safe. This episode explores why empowerment has to include the body—not just thoughts.Somatic Work That Actually HelpsWhat real nervous system support looks like (and why training matters if someone is guiding others through this work).Practical Regulation (Without Escaping Your Life)Simple, realistic ways to stay grounded, aware, and connected to your body throughout the day.Connect with the guest Amyee Oen:www.amyeeoen.comIG/FB @amyeeoen @findyourtruenorthcoaching