Ep 7: Acting Out vs Acting In

Welcome to another episode of Joy Recovery Radio, where we delve into the concept of 'acting in' as opposed to 'acting out.' Using insights from psychologist Donald Nathanson's work on shame, we explore the core wounds of insignificance, incompetence, and impotence that often drive shame-based belief systems. Learn about Nathanson's 'compass of shame' and the four poles of shame responses: avoiding, attacking others, attacking oneself, and hiding. This episode focuses on 'acting in,' or intimacy avoidance, highlighting eight common techniques like stonewalling, controlling with anger, and withholding love. We'll also discuss potential counterbalances to these behaviors and how to foster genuine intimacy and connection. Join us to better understand the dynamics of shame and intimacy avoidance, and how to move towards a healthier, more intimate relationship. Free Assessment: Is the Recovery Real? 9 Vital Questions for Addicts & Partners - https://www.joy-recovery.com/real-recovery Free Newsletter: joy-recovery.com Coaching: https://www.joy-recovery.com/coaching Groups: https://www.joy-recovery.com/groups Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/joy-recovery-radio/id1793658785 Keywords: Keywords: sex addiction, sex addiction recovery, porn addiction, recovery from sex addiction, help for sex addiction, sex addict, sex addiction treatment, what is sex addiction, sexual addiction, sexual addiction recovery, sex addiction help, hope for sex addiction, sex addiction symptoms, porn addiction, betrayal trauma, betrayal trauma recovery, betrayal trauma symptoms, partner betrayal trauma, betrayal trauma ptsd, complex trauma, post betrayal trauma, beyond betrayal, partner betrayal, betrayal trauma therapy, the trauma of betrayal, betrayal trauma triggers, impact of betrayal trauma, betrayed, effects of betrayal trauma, betrayal trauma infidelity, overcoming betrayal trauma recovery, pornography addiction, how to deal with sex addiction