Ep 73: When Narcissists Ruin the Holidays: Strategies for Peace and Joy

The holidays are coming and guess who always seems to ruin them?That’s right, your narcissistic partner or ex partner.  Whether you are still with your abusive partner or you are separated, special occasions are a great time and place for them to cause chaos.Think back to all of the important events and holidays that you shared with your ex partner and see how many of them were ruined or sabotaged in some way by your narcissistic partner.Why do they ruin these special moments?The event is not about them and they need to remind you of this or make it all about themselvesThe special occasion is important to you and they have the power to ruin it for you or hang it over your head so that you’ll do what they want you to doPeople will be watching and they want to present as the perfect couple or family.  This can cause so much stress because the consequences of not being perfect can be brutal.So, what are some things you can do to mitigate all of the ways that they will try to ruin the upcoming holidays?Check and clarify your current parenting plan or court ordersHave a plan A, B, C and maybe even DChange your mindset on the importance of celebrating on a specific dayFocus on connection and traditions with your children, which is what they are more likely to remember than the fancy party or expensive giftHelp prepare your extended family (and maybe prepare for your family if you have difficult relationships)Take care of yourself any moment you have the chance.Turn off your parenting app notifications!Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/Wondering where to start? Check out our top free resources - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/resources.htmlIf you're interested in guesting on the show, please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest