Thanks for tuning in to the Real Women Chronicles podcast. I am your international certified life coach, T. Audrey Taylor. The sole purpose of this podcast is to get you from where you are now to where you want to be.
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Thank you for tuning in to the Real Women Chronicles podcast. I am your host coach T certified life and relationship coach. I hope you guys are doing well out there in the midst of all this COVID stuff that we have going on right now. I'm really, I really have faith that this will all be over soon.
We just got to continue to join together and pray together. Okay. So as always, I'm going to jump right into this week's podcast. God, let me on the topic of does he or she deserve you?
I want to talk on this topic because I believe all of us come to a part, a point in relationships that we go through, well, maybe not all of us, but a lot of us come to a point in a relationship where we really question whether or not the person actually deserves us. It's important to understand that just because a person wants you does not necessarily mean that they deserve you. Every body should not have access to you. It should be somewhat of a privilege for someone to come into your life and for them to have your time, affection and your attention.
Just like many of us have to go to work and earn that money, it should be the same way when they come into your life. They should have to put in some work in order to get close to you. It shouldn't be that easy for someone to come into your life before you really, really determine whether or not this person even deserves you. You earn so much more than intercourse or someone's convenient pleasure, okay?
Your presence here on Earth is no mistake. You have been divinely positioned here and you have a divine purpose in the lives of the people you encounter throughout life. This divine purpose should never be taken lightly by you or anyone else. It's important to understand that because what you think about you really determines what you end up attracting.
I think it's important for us to understand that our birth here is no mistake, that you got meticulously placed you here on this planet caught Earth to touch people in many different ways and you will come across a lot of different people. Even the ones that don't deserve you serve a purpose in your life or maybe you're serving a purpose in theirs. Either way, you are here and you are a very important part to this Earth and the reason why I reiterate that is because sometimes we don't understand our worth. Whenever we don't understand our worth, we expose ourselves to people who tear away at it, who don't appreciate it.
That's like giving a luxury car to someone who doesn't know how to drive and saying here, take this Lamborghini. I understand you don't know how to drive but go ahead, take the Lamborghini, let's see how you end up as you're trying to drive up and down the road. Eventually, guess what? That person's going to crash that Lamborghini.
No, why? Because they didn't really deserve the Lamborghini in the first place and especially if they haven't taken the time out to learn how to drive. And I want you to look at yourself even not as a Lamborghini but of something of higher magnitude than that. There are people who really will love the idea of having you but come short when it comes to putting in the work to keep you.
These people need to be identified early. We don't want to waste years and years with people trying to just mold them and trying to get them to understand our worth and trying to get them to see that we deserve to be treated right. We deserve to be, you know, to have a person that's loyal. We deserve to have a person who's consistent and knows how to take care of the household.
We don't want to waste years trying to convince a person that we deserve this. Some people will allow access to us because, you know, some people, well, we will constantly allow access to us because it becomes familiar or we have history. But you want to never choose history over how a person makes you feel. How that person makes you feel is so much more important than how long you've been together.
Meaning if the relationship doesn't feel right, it shouldn't matter whether you spent two days with this person or 20 years. Do they deserve you? Do they deserve your love? Do they deserve your gifts?
Do they deserve your time? Do they even deserve your forgiveness? And yes, as children of Christ, absolutely we're supposed to forgive, absolutely. But it doesn't mean that you have to allow that person back in your room again.
You can forgive them and wish them the best. You have to determine if they deserve you. Or are you just giving yourself away for free, receiving minimum benefit? Are you constantly pouring more into someone else's cup than they are actually pouring into yours?
And listen, I'm not referring to monetary payments or, you know, something like that. I'm referring to that person giving you what you need out of a relationship or are they just taken from the table and not bringing nothing to it. It's important to understand that whenever we're in a relationship that is of balance like that, you know, where you're in this relationship and deep down inside, most of us will know when we're in a relationship and we know the person doesn't truly deserve us. You see, that's a clear telltale sign that insecurity is running the show and it's your insecurity because insecurity will actually cause you to stay around people that simply just don't deserve you.
That's the only way a person truly stays in the life of someone that never really deserved them in the beginning or maybe as time goes on when you really recognize who that person was and how they operated in the relationship. Insecurity is the only thing that keeps you there. Many of you out there probably think it's love. It's not love.
There's many people who love a person and leave a person. It's not love that keeps you there. It's the insecurity that keeps you in places, dark places that you're unhappy at because true love and especially true love for yourself will cause you to exit without turning back. You would run if you truly knew what real love is.
See, sometimes we think it's love when really it's the strong force of attachment issues. It's the strong force of insecurity. It's the strong force of fears of being alone that keep us there. It's not the love.
If we truly knew how to love someone in that particular situation, real love is something that is exhibited from within you to the other person. So that means if I love myself wholeheartedly the way I'm supposed to, I'm not going to subject myself to people that don't deserve me. Insecurity will truly cause you to put up with things that you don't deserve. It will cause you to freely give access to the vulnerable parts of yourself because truly you have yet to value those parts yourself.
It's important to understand that you are not someone's toy. You are not a toy to where someone can play with you and decide whenever they want. They can just put you up, play with you, take you off the shelf, play with you, break your arm, break your leg, you know, the stuff that kids do with their toys and just put you back on the shelf and whatever they want. They should deserve you.
They should understand that you are a precious jewel that needs to be taken care of. And anyone who deserves you should automatically know that. You shouldn't have to continuously convince a person of your worth in their life. They should appreciate the good qualities you possess on their own without you having to constantly convince them to do so.
And anyone who doesn't most likely does not deserve you. And that's all I have for you guys this week. Okay. Listen, quick note, for those of you who have been emailing me to be a guest on the show, I have definitely have received your emails.
I've just been crazy busy lately, but I will be getting back to all of those folks that have reached out to be a guest on the show. And if the shoe fits, we're definitely going to wear it. I will definitely expose you to my following. I love to help other people in what they do with their adventures because, hey, it's a lot of reciprocity.
We want to give as much as we can. Okay. So just I just wanted to let you guys know I am getting your emails. Thank you very, very much.
Now listen, let's close out and pray your Father God. We just thank you for allowing us to see another day for the guy. I pray for all those out there that are struggling with the COVID-19 virus, struggling in relationships with Father God, struggling in their finances for the God, struggling in their mind and their body for the God. We just want to pray for each and every one of them under the sound of my voice that are in need of help, of our need of healing Father God, whether it be mentally or spiritually Father God, we pray for them Father God.
You say when two or more gather you are present. So we are believing that whatever it is that the enemy has formed against the lives, our lives, my lives, the lives of our listeners out there will never prosper Father God. Any weapon formed will not prosper. We thank you for everything that you're doing, everything that you're going to do, everything that you have done and doing right now.
In the name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen. If you are in need of coaching, shoot me an email at tntgroveproject at gmail.com. Again, that's tntgroveproject at gmail.com.
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Bye.