Ep: 8 The Messy Middle

Think you’re stuck, behind, or doing life “wrong”? Think again.In this episode, Erin and Ellen explore the messy middle—that uncomfortable, disorienting space between who you used to be and who you’re becoming. It’s the part of growth most people try to rush through, avoid, or fix. But what if nothing is wrong? What if this is exactly what transformation feels like?They unpack why uncertainty feels so intense for high achievers, how grief often shows up inside identity shifts, and why we confuse performing with becoming. Through deeply personal stories—including Ellen’s experience of being laid off and rebuilding her identity—they reveal what it really takes to stay in the in-between without abandoning yourself.You’ll also hear this week’s Bold Tips: simple practices to help you stay grounded when life feels unclear, including a way to track what actually energizes you and a powerful mantra to anchor you in transition.If you’ve been questioning your direction, your identity, or your next step—this episode is for you.What the “messy middle” actually is (and why it’s not a problem to fix)Why uncertainty triggers urgency, overthinking, and control-seekingThe difference between performing your life and actually becoming itEllen’s story of identity loss after being laid off—and what shiftedWhy grief is often part of growth, not a sign you’re doing it wrongThe “Spark List” and how to notice what’s quietly pulling you forwardWhy slowing down is often the most powerful leadership moveFollow us on Instagram Instagram @boldnotbeigeco and visit us at BoldNotBeige boldnotbeige.com.