Ep 86: Saying ‘NO’ to People-Pleasing As You Heal From Narcissistic Abuse with Guest Anita Sandoval, LPCS

How often are you kicking yourself because you said “Yes” to something when you didn’t have the time or backed down and agreed to one of your ex’s requests because you just wanted to avoid the conflict?Being a victim of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse will lead to fawning or people-pleasing behaviors as a way to maintain safety and the idea of control and calm. People pleasing was a skill that kept you safe but it is something that you do not want to continue forever.In this episode we are going to discuss how people-pleasing develops and some strategies to become more empowered, find love and acceptance for yourself, and learn to set some compassionate boundaries.  My guest, Anita Sandoval, LPCS shares her experience of generational trauma and abuse that led her to people-please and stay in an abusive relationship.  We discuss how modeling of behaviors and what is accepted is passed down through generations and how difficult it is to break these cycles.  Anita's Bio:I'm Anita Sandoval, a licensed professional counselor Supervisor and EMDR certified with over 14 years of experience and  the author of 'Broken Chains,' and the host of 'Empowering Women in Conversations' podcast. With over 13 years of dedicated practice as a licensed professional counselor at Positive Awakenings Counseling Center. In addition to my writing, I'm also the host of 'Empowering Women in Conversations,' a podcast where we dive into meaningful discussions that aim to uplift and empower women from all walks of life.My own path to becoming a licensed professional counselor is deeply rooted in a story of transformation. As a third-generation survivor of abuse and neglect, I know firsthand the challenges and pain that such cycles can perpetuate. However, my determination to break this cycle and become a woman empowered was unwavering.Through years of personal growth, therapy, and self-discovery, I found the strength to rewrite my narrative. I realized that I could use my experiences to not only heal but also to help others do the same. This journey led me to the field of counseling, where I've spent over a decade honing my skills, gaining valuable insights.Today, I'm passionate about guiding individuals and families on their own journeys from generational abuse to generational growth. It's my mission to empower others to break free from the chains of the past and discover their own resilience and potential. I'm living proof that transformation is possible, and I'm here to support you in your own journey of healing and empowerment."Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/Wondering where to start? Check out our top free resources - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/resources.htmlIf you're interested in guesting on the show, please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest