Ep 87: Top 10 Survival Strategies: Balancing Life Amidst Post-Separation Challenges

You finally left your narcissistic partner and find yourself a single parent.  (Let’s be real here, you were basically a single parent before)  And being a single parent is HARD!You’re working, maintaining a home, helping with homework, planning meals, driving to the extra curricular activities, and more.  And, you likely also have a full time job mitigating everything that comes up during post separation abuse.So, is there a way to get it all done and save your sanity?There is a way.  In this episode, I am going to share some strategies that you can use to start to find some balance in a life where there is not enough time and plenty of stress. Here are my top 10 tips to finding some balance and sanity as you manage everything that single parenting and post separation abuse brings.Be Intentional.  You will need to use this intentionality through out the other strategies on this list in order to make your decisions about what is important now and which strategy will give you the biggest bang for your buck.Compartmentalize so that the tough stuff does not bleed into other areas of your life.Simplify.  What areas in your life can you eliminate or automate things?  Another questions you can ask yourself (courtesy of Pat Flynn) is “If this were easy, what would it look like?”Structure and Routines.  Nope this is not sexy, but having routines and structure prevents decision fatigue.Break the “rules” of parenting occasionally.  I know this one causes fear of retribution within the family court system, and there are some things you can do to decrease the amount of things you need to take on on any given day.Make your free time meaningful and intentional.  Make sure to add little pockets of peace or joy into your free time instead of filling it solely with dishes and laundry.Set Boundaries. It is important that you know what matters to you now, and what is a “Yes” and what is a “No.”Quality time vs Quantity time with your children.  The quality of your time with your children is much more important than the amount of time spent.Build your support system.  Having safe people to vent to, strategize with, laugh with, and ask for help will do wonders for you if you are overwhelmed.Ask for Help.  After you have safe people in your inner circle it is possible that you can take something off your plate by asking for help.Rising Beyond Podcast episodes on boundaries:Ep 18: Boundary Setting 101: Tips for setting boundaries after an abusive relationshipEp 19: Choosing Your Circle: Crafting Healthy Boundaries After AbusePlease leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/Wondering where to start? Check out our top free resources - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/resources.htmlIf you're interested in guesting on the show, please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest