Ep10: Relationships

In this podcast we explore how we develop our roles as we engage with those around us. We explore how our past can influence how we present ourselves and those around us, how do we know ourselves? We think about the differences between behaviours and identities. In this way is there anything that isn't 'relational' - everything is in relation to everything else? How do we choose between directing a conversation and being 'non-directive'? We explore how couples, families, groups and tribes develop ways of relating - thinking and feeling - together that is both helpful and unhelpful. Roles and expectations are explored and the concept of the usefulness of 'truthfulness' and authenticity within a relationship. We talk about the effect of language and how this can distort the real meaning of what we intend to say. What happens when a relationship comes to an end and how does a new relationship, with the same person or someone else, develop differently into the future. Finally we think about our own dependency and how usefully, or not, this plays out. How does this express itself in the changing process of psychotherapy? We talk about structure and a space that is agreed with honesty and humour.