Ep14 | The Exhaustion From Always Saying Yes And How to Handle The Fallout

Let’s talk about something that’s burning so many women out, especially mums:Saying YES when we mean NO.We keep saying yes because you don’t want to disappoint. You fear someone will be upset, disappointed even. You worry others will judge you as lazy or selfish or not part of the team, and you’ve been conditioned to believe that busy equals valuable.But here’s the truth: Not saying no is costing you - your energy, your patience, and your presence. While this podcast is part of a duo of two for mums in the school holidays, it is essential listening for anyone that finds themselves feeling ‘huffy’ for saying yes to what doesn’t matter, and never having time for what does matter or themselves.In this episode, you’ll find:-Why we fear saying no (and how it’s wired into us)-How saying no in a safe environment actually builds resilience in kids (and adults, because they are big kids), not trauma-The cultural lie that doing more makes you more worthy-How old people-pleasing patterns are keeping you stuck and exhaustedAnd I’ll give you a simple tool you can use straight away:The 3-Question Pause Before Every Yes.Because when you start saying no. calmly, kindly, and with self-respect, and trust that you are enough.Because…Your worth isn’t measured by how much you do.Your kids need your presence, not your perfection.And you are allowed to say no.How about sharing the love with another amazing women juggling all the things? Resources in this podcast:Nathan Wallis NEUROSCIENCE EDUCATOR- https://www.nathanwallis.comGrab the free guide The Art of Saying No (plus cheerleading emails to help you put it into practice) here: https://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/saynoFollow Mindset in Mayhem on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindsetinmayhemCarla Mardell, creator of Mindset in Mayhem, teaches busy women how to get off the mouse wheel of busy, flip the thoughts that keep them stuck, and find calm- even with careers, kids, and lives chaos in the mix.She blends EFT with emotionally intelligent tools that actually work- so that you can stress less, reclaim your time, and feel more like yourself again. You know glow, flow and bring back some mojo! No healing pits of misery. No 5am rituals. Just real change, in the moment, without the flaming hoops, because life can be mayhem, but your mind doesn’t have to be. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com