EP156 Are You Scared of Failure… or Being Seen Trying?

Send us Fan MailWhat if you’re not actually scared of failing?What if you’re scared of people seeing you try... and then watching it not work?Because I think there’s actually quite a big difference.Failing privately is one thing. Abso-f*cking-lutely.But, saying out loud I want this, putting your hand up, launching the thing, changing career, starting the business, writing the book, going after the stage, dating again or admitting that you want something more... and then letting people WATCH you go for it?That’s a whole other level of vulnerability.And I think this becomes particularly uncomfortable when you’ve spent years being known as the competent and successful powerhouse.The woman who knows exactly what she’s doing.Because reinvention has an annoying habit of turning experts back into beginners.Suddenly you don’t know all the answers. You’re learning really bloody publicly. You might post something nobody engages with. Launch something that doesn’t sell. Apply and get rejected. Change your mind. Get something spectacularly wrong.And other people might see it.In this episode of The Reinvention Era, I’m talking about the fear underneath the fear of failure. The fear of judgement, embarrassment and what an unsuccessful attempt might mean about you.I’m talking about why potential can feel so bloody safe, because nobody can criticise something you never actually tried.Why perfectionism can sometimes be fear with a crown on.Why we create imaginary judging panels full of old colleagues, exes, friends, family and random women on Instagram who probably aren’t thinking about us at all.And why identity reinvention requires something most of us don't talk about enough: the willingness to be seen becoming a beginner again.Because you can journal to the endth degree about your next identity.Visualise her.Create the vision board.Work out what she believes, wears, wants and tolerates.But eventually?She has to leave the f*cking house.She has to make the decision. Ask for the money. Post the post. Apply for the thing. Say no. Say yes. Launch. Leave. Begin again. Tell somebody what she actually wants.That’s when identity design becomes real.I’m also sharing what this has looked like for me while very publicly building my first Be You Now event, with absolutely no ability to control the final outcome.Maybe the goal isn’t to become so confident that you know you’ll succeed.Maybe confidence is being willing to say:I want this. I believe in this. I’m going for it.Even when you have absolutely no f*cking guarantee about how it ends.Because yes, some things won't work.Somebody might judge you.You might change your mind.You might occasionally look like a bit of a dick.But the alternative is keeping your potential pristine, untouched and safely wrapped in plastic while your actual life passes by.Let them see you try.They get an opinion. They don't get a vote.Buy a ticket for Be You Now by 25th August 2026🔥 DOWNLOAD RESOURCES TO FUEL YOUR REINVENTION📲 FOLLOW on Instagram and Facebook📚 EDIT YOUR LIFE: No BS Reinvention Journal on Amazon🩷