Ep164: Who Do You Become When You Scroll? with Nicole McNelis

Send us Fan MailSocial media can connect parents to real support and still leave us feeling exhausted, behind, and strangely ashamed. We sit down with therapist, perinatal mental health specialist, educator, and mom rage researcher Nicole McNelis to name what’s actually happening to parents when the scroll becomes a reflex. No scare tactics, no moralizing, just a grounded conversation about why this topic feels so intense and why your brain can start treating curated content like truth.We dig into the comparison trap that hits when a friend’s highlight reel sits next to polished parenting influencer content, and how that mash-up can distort what we think “normal” should look like. Nicole breaks down the difference between relatable influencer marketing and expert-driven content, how both styles monetize parenting fear, and why dramatic promises can make you feel like the problem when your kid is simply being a kid. We also talk about critical thinking skills for the feed, including “magic show thinking” that helps you remember what you’re seeing is produced, selective, and designed to pull you in.You’ll leave with practical strategies for a healthier relationship with social media: using an intentional pause to name your real need, choosing replacement behaviors that regulate your nervous system, adding friction to reduce mindless use, and building simple household boundaries that help kids and adults alike. If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I keep up?” this conversation brings you back to self-compassion and a plan you can actually live with. Subscribe, share with a parent friend, and leave a review with the screen habit you’re working on right now.This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at [email protected] the showwww.bethtrammell.com