EP217 The Thought Patterns That Keep You Stuck (And How to Catch Them)

Send us Fan MailYou have somewhere between 6,000 and 60,000 thoughts a day. Nobody agrees on the number. But here's what most researchers do agree on: a significant chunk of them are negative, and a startling number are repeats from yesterday. Your brain is running the same playlist on loop, and a lot of those tracks were recorded a long time ago by a much younger version of you who was just trying to stay safe.Last week we introduced metacognition as the practice of watching your thoughts. This week, we get into what you'll actually find when you start watching. Cognitive distortions are the biased thought patterns that warp how we see reality, and they're not a character flaw or a sign that something is broken in you. They're patterns your brain got good at, often for very good reasons. Naming them is the first step toward not being completely at their mercy. In this episode, we dig into:A clearer picture of what cognitive distortions actually are (and why calling them "distortions" doesn't mean you're broken)All-or-nothing thinking: why high achievers are especially prone to this oneCatastrophizing: what to do when your brain fast-forwards to the worst possible outcomeShould statements: the sneaky way they disguise themselves as high standardsLabeling: why the words you use about yourself (and others) carry more weight than you thinkPermission to be in-progress without labeling yourself as a failure for still working on itSami shares the story of getting called to the principal's office in high school, expecting the worst, and finding out there was a snapping turtle in her car. Angela talks about the should statements she thought she'd healed from, only to realize she'd just changed the language ("I need to" and "I meant to" turn out to be the same trap with a different label). They catch themselves doing all-or-nothing thinking and overgeneralizing in real time, which is maybe the most honest advertisement for why this work matters.If you've ever told yourself you're bad at something after one rough moment, jumped to the worst-case conclusion when your boss asked to see you, or slapped a permanent identity label on yourself or someone you love, this episode is the one. These patterns feel true because your brain is very convincing. They're also not the whole truth.Press play. It's a little chaotic in there, but you're in good company.Mentioned in this episode:EP216 — Metacognition: Thinking About Your Thinking (last week's episode in the series)EP212 — Expectations vs. Agreements (referenced by Sami in the should statements discussion)Liven App — nervous system support tool Angela mentioned: theliven.comBe Freaking Awesome by Angela Belford — referenced throughout as the source of the BFA coaching methodologyTraveling Light by Angela Belford — referenced in the labeling and identity statements discussionYou've done the work. The retreats, the books, the coaching. And the pattern is still there. The Invisible Edge Foundation 1:1 Coaching is where that changes. Six sessions, one-on-one, body-based belief work that gets underneath what nothing else has touched. bfreakingawesome.com/invisible-edge-foundationSupport the showSign up at bfreakingawesome.com to get the latest news, insights, and episodes straight to your inbox.Follow Be Freaking Awesome on Facebook, LinkedIn, Youtube, and Instagram.Let us know what questions you want to be answered and discussed by emailing us at [email protected].