EP233 Healing Changes What Hurts You: How Old Wounds Shape Your Reactions

Send us Fan MailEP233 Healing Changes What Hurts You: How Old Wounds Shape Your ReactionsHealing does not always look dramatic.Sometimes it looks like realizing something that would have crushed you five years ago just... doesn’t.And that can be disorienting.In this episode, Angela and Sami talk about what actually changes when you do the work of healing old wounds. Not in a polished, “I’m healed now” kind of way, but in the very real experience of noticing that your reactions are different, your relationships feel different, and you are starting to see yourself and other people more clearly.Angela shares a conversation that led to a powerful question: Is it possible your wounded self interpreted someone’s actions differently than your healed self would?That idea opens up a bigger conversation about the invisible lenses we carry from our earliest hurts. Angela compares them to wearing tinted sunglasses for so long that you forget they are changing what you see. Sami shares the story of a colorblind friend who saw the full vibrancy of the sky and trees for the first time, without ever having realized what he had been missing.They also talk about the difference between healing and dissociating, why feeling more is not necessarily a sign that the work is failing, and why the coping mechanisms we developed deserve more compassion than shame.Angela shares one of the most meaningful things a therapist ever told her: he was glad she had encased her heart in concrete when she was young, because that protection helped preserve it until she was safe enough to uncover it. The goal was never to judge the protection. The goal was to recognize that she might not need quite so much of it anymore.In this episode, we dig into:How old wounds shape the way we interpret other peopleThe difference between emotional healing and emotional numbnessWhy coping mechanisms can be protective before they become limitingHow healing can make criticism hurt lessWhy someone else’s reaction to you may say more about them than it does about youHow to hold compassion for people who hurt you without excusing their behaviorWhy deeper relationships require vulnerability and the willingness to risk being hurtWhat can happen when you stop protecting yourself the way you once had toAngela also shares an update on The Invisible Edge and why the book was never only about selling books. It was created to help people recognize the deeper work they may be ready to do.That leads into the first look at EPIC Impact, a new mastermind for business owners and leaders who are asking, “What’s next?”It is designed for people who have built experience, solved hard problems, lived through difficult things, and are beginning to wonder whether what they know could help someone else. Through stories, speaking, community building, offer development, and potentially even a book, the goal is to help people become known for what they know and turn what they have learned into meaningful impact.Because healing is not about becoming someone who never gets hurt.It is about becoming someone who can see more clearly, recover more quickly, connect more deeply, and choose how they want to show up.And sometimes one of the clearest signs that healing is happening is simple:The same things just do not hurt the way they used to.Mentioned in this episode:The Invisible Edge by Angela BelfordTraveling Light: Free Yourself from the Crap in Your Head by Angela BelfordSuperfans by Pat Flynn (referenced for the "you only need a hundred people" idea)You've done the work. The retreats, the books, the coaching. And the pattern is still there. The Invisible Edge Foundation 1:1 Coaching is where that changes. Six sessions, one-on-one, body-based belief work that gets underneath what nothing else has touched. bfreakingawesome.com/invisible-edge-foundationSupport the showSign up at bfreakingawesome.com to get the latest news, insights, and episodes straight to your inbox.Follow Be Freaking Awesome on Facebook, LinkedIn, Youtube, and Instagram.Let us know what questions you want to be answered and discussed by emailing us at [email protected].