ep6. Self-love

Today we’re talking about self-love — a word we see everywhere, especially online. It usually comes with soft visuals: spa days, shopping, flowers, girls’ nights, bubble baths, and inspirational quotes telling us, “Before falling in love with anyone, remember to love yourself first.”But what does that actually mean?Is self-love the same as confidence? Is it self-esteem? Is it choosing yourself over everyone else? And what if loving the people close to you — taking care of them, prioritizing them, showing up for them — genuinely makes you happy?In this episode, we try to understand self-love beyond the aesthetic version. We talk about family patterns, people-pleasing, saying no, friendship editing, therapy, shadows, perfectionism, and the difficult question: am I loving others because it brings me joy, or because being needed makes me feel valuable?Maybe self-love is not about becoming perfectly confident. Maybe it is about choosing not to abandon yourself, even when you make mistakes, even when you feel unlovable, and even when you are still learning who you are.Question for the club: what does loving yourself actually look like in your real life?