EP651 | 喝星巴克、約會沒AA就是拜金女？接受對方的金錢付出，就叫不獨立嗎？

『真正的獨立，是心靈的自由。』  「你不花我的錢，跟我在一起要幹嘛？」 一篇放閃文引發全網「27項拜金清單」大亂鬥！明明是小倆口甜甜蜜蜜，為什麼陌生網友會集體大崩潰？ 這集海苔熊帶大家從心理學看透愛情與金錢裡的集體焦慮，送上 5 個金錢與被愛的精華剖析： 【矛盾的金錢心理】 8成人嘴上喊男女平等，行為卻高度傾向男方買單？看懂想法與大腦劇本的落差。 【拜金清單的焦慮】 為什麼酸民非要證明別人很糟？從「向下比較」看懂那些刺耳留言背後的脆弱自尊。 【金錢是蜜糖或控制】 「你不花我的錢要幹嘛」是愛還是控制？從「投資模型」辨識金錢背後的附帶條件。 【坦然被愛的能力】 被請客就代表不獨立？依附理論告訴你：能安心收下對方的照顧，需要極大的安全感。 【解套金錢老劇本】 別被網路清單綁架！用 3 個提問檢視關係，與另一半建立專屬於你們的金錢默契。 📌拜金清單 https://reurl.cc/AXK648 ▍本集提及之研究文獻（APA 7th） Brines, J. (1994). Economic dependency, gender, and the division of labor at home. American Journal of Sociology, 100(3), 652–688. https://doi.org/10.1086/230577 Collins, N. L., & Feeney, B. C. (2000). A safe haven: An attachment theory perspective on support seeking and caregiving in intimate relationships. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 78(6), 1053–1073. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.78.6.1053 Glick, P., & Fiske, S. T. (1996). The Ambivalent Sexism Inventory: Differentiating hostile and benevolent sexism. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 70(3), 491–512. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.70.3.491 Gul, P., & Kupfer, T. R. (2019). Benevolent sexism and mate preferences: Why do women prefer benevolent men despite recognizing that they can be undermining? Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 45(1), 146–161. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167218781000 Lever, J., Frederick, D. A., & Hertz, R. (2015). Who pays for dates? Following versus challenging gender norms. SAGE Open, 5(4). https://doi.org/10.1177/2158244015613107 Rusbult, C. E. (1980). Commitment and satisfaction in romantic associations: A test of the investment model. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 16(2), 172–186. https://doi.org/10.1016/0022-1031(80)90007-4 Rusbult, C. E., & Martz, J. M. (1995). Remaining in an abusive relationship: An investment model analysis of nonvoluntary dependence. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 21(6), 558–571. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167295216002 Thibaut, J. W., & Kelley, H. H. (1959). The social psychology of groups. Wiley. Wills, T. A. (1981). Downward comparison principles in social psychology. Psychological Bulletin, 90(2), 245–271. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.90.2.245 Wood, J. V., Taylor, S. E., & Lichtman, R. R. (1985). Social comparison in adjustment to breast cancer. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 49(5), 1169–1183. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.49.5.1169 Wu, H., Luo, S., Klettner, A., White, T., & Albritton, K. (2023). Gender roles in the millennium: Who pays and is expected to pay for romantic dates? Psychological Reports, 126(2), 791–811. https://doi.org/10.1177/00332941211057144 🐻海苔熊 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Haitaibear/ 🐢贊助海苔熊的龜龜飼料 https://pay.soundon.fm/podcasts/9227fc4c-c954-46dd-b392-1ab7f3c43c33 📬海苔熊信箱 https://haitaibear.com/mailbox 片頭襯樂：Music from Artlis -- Hosting provided by SoundOn