EP84 Let That Sh*t Go: Why Trying to Control Your Ex is Keeping You Stuck

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, we’re going all in on a topic so many of us struggle with…. control. After divorce, it’s SO tempting to try and manage everything….. the ex, the narrative, the emotions, even the future. But the truth is control is actually an illusion.So we’re unpacking…. ✔️ What controlling behaviour looks like after divorce (Hint: You might not even realise you're doing it!) ✔️ Why we try to control…. is it love, ego, or just fear of the unknown? ✔️ How control actually hurts you…. mentally, emotionally, and physically. ✔️ How to let go and reclaim your peace…. because you deserve to focus on YOU, not him. ✔️ The transformation that happens when you stop trying to control the uncontrollable.From social media stalking (we’ve all been there!) to emotional bargaining, I break it down just how control sneaks into your post-divorce life and why loosening your grip might just be the most freeing thing you do.We go in on:✨ Why controlling your ex or the situation is actually draining your energy.✨ The difference between ego-driven control vs. genuine desire to reconnect.✨ The truth about why fear of the unknown keeps you stuck.✨ A mindset shift that will help you release control and find peace.So, grab your coffee (or wine…. no judgment here), and let’s talk about why letting go is your superpower.Hope you enjoy (and if you do, PLEASE rate and review ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐)Loads of Love,Sarah x🌸P.S. In April in the Divorce Book Club, we’re reading The Midpoint Plan by Gabby LoganThe blurb says: Packed to the brim with advice and life lessons from experts in their field (Dr Louise Newson, Prof Greg Whyte amongst others) and successful people navigating this time of life (Claudia Winkleman, Jo Whiley, Lee Mack, Michael Johnson, Caitlin Moran, Phil Neville and so many more) the book draws on their wise words to help you to navigate the biggest challenges that midlife can throw at you.It will help you to:- keep yourself fit and healthy into older age- keep your brain firing on all cylinders- improve your sleep- deal with anxiety- thrive in your career- navigate changing relationships (whether that's empty nests or aging parents)- cope with illness and loss- be a healthier, more productive, creative and happy older personWith a Midpoint Action Plan (MAP) at the end of each chapter, it contains all the tips and tricks, habits and practices you need for a positive mindset, a healthy body and a happy life. It's a must-have manual for all mid-life men and women.So if you want to join us, check it all out HERE ⬇️