Episode 0019: Lesbian or Gay?

:30 AD SPOT {5 minutes with Mike is sponsored by SpeakPublishing International’s Best-Selling Book  Dying To Be Straight! Paul Stringer lives a life of chance after being sexually molested by his uncle, he must find the one thing that makes him whole again as he struggles with his identity like many other gay black men through the lure of homosexuality. Will Paul Stringer be able to put back the strings which were torn by his uncle or continue to face the burdens of homosexuality on his quest from gay to straight? 2015 BWABC Award Winning Author puts urban gay fiction on its heels with this highly rated and reviewed novel. It's a classic struggle of the battle between what the heart wants and the flesh desires. {Available for purchase in ebook and paperback wherever books are sold. } :60 Would You Rather Be Gay or Lesbian? Well the answer to this would primarily be based on a number of factor. Primarily the equation of were you born as a male or female. Of course you yourself may identify as a number of lgbtq labels. But essentially the sex for which God created you as is the very core of this question. Which in retrospect gay or lesbian is practically the same thing. A lust and or liking for the same sex. Yet if you are a male and identify as gay and a female and identify as lesbian. This simple definition is miles away from what society sees as appropriate and acceptable. :90 Masculinity Myths Probably one of the primary reasons that gay and lesbian is miles apart is because of the misconceptions and or myths that are spoken about and expected of each gender. These myths are particularly in-tune and heavy in the african-american, hispanics and especially the caribbean islands. Myths such as “real men don't cry.” Straight men cant give each other a hug. Straight men should have sex with multiple women to prove his manhood. Women ought to shut up, cook clean and take care of the babies. Now i'm not one to think that the way God designed male and female is for a unique purpose and one can do what the other can’t. I.e. no man in human history has ever  carried a baby for 9 months. Just not possible. We weren't built for that. And because these basic facts hold true it is more acceptable and “appropriate” for a women to be in a same sex relationship with another women openly. While a man especially a gay black man is criticized ostracized and obscured to a point of darkness for which has perpetuated this DL lifestyle amongst minority men. A women says she’s leabian, guys says cool lets do a three some. Guy says hes gay, he’s told get the f up out my face nigga. And or threatened with violence like Jussie Smollett. These myths of male masculinity needs to stop, and what yo think as gay may not actually be gay at all. :35  Donald Trump  Said What? Dont judge a person by what you only see in the media. Give the person a chance to speak their own truths. You may just learn something. :30 Take Em To Church: God loves the person, he just hates the sin. Like any sin that mankind commits it disappoint him. And before you throw stones, your very cousin, uncle, father or brother could be gay. They probably prefer to stay in the closet because they already know what you feel about them. :15 Ad spot: Download your copy  of D