Episode 024: Rules, Boundaries, & Agreements: Why We Make Rules In Non-Monogamy--And Why They Change

Rules. Everyone has them.  But where do they come from—and do they actually work? In this episode of Three Shades of Grey, we dive into the rules couples create when entering non-monogamy, with a special focus on swinging. From no kissing and no single men to same room only and no repeat partners, we unpack the most common rules, why people make them, and what they're really trying to protect. We talk about the difference between rules, boundaries, and agreements, how some rules help couples feel safe, and how others quietly create more anxiety than security. We also explore how rules evolve over time, which ones tend to backfire, and what healthier alternatives can look like as couples gain experience. If you've ever wondered whether your rules are serving your relationship—or holding it back—this episode is for you. LINKS Three Shades Of Grey | Website Episode 008: Setting the B.A.R (Boundaries, Agreements, and Rules) Awakening: The Growth and Empowerment of Women in Open and Poly Relationships Pinky's Audiobook PolyPoet.com The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love